That's pretty cool. I am also here to discuss, and interact with like-minded people. I consider myself a secular humanist. I am not looking for a date at the moment, but rather to have someone to speak to. In my opinion, both are different. Don't even need the shirt (although its a nice detail/gesture) I am satisfied with just shareing my knowledge simply because I want to as with interaction.

We'll see. I'll give this site perhaps another chance, and see what happens.

@JamesAnthony do it! The friends I have made here are awesome! Some I was lucky enough to meet in person, some just on here but either way, it's great!

The ranking part, and prioritizing people by a rank I never really liked from the start. I have interacted mostly in groups up til today, but nothing very much far from that.

@JamesAnthony I see a lot of benefits to the point system.. it encourages people to interact with each other, and allows you to filter out tire kickers and lurkers..
again..
its about interacting with others.. if your serious about meeting someone you need to practice this.. if you can't do it here, how do you do it in real life?
i don't know if you have been on dating sites like POF, but they make this place seem easy! There you have to be great on starting conversations or you get no replies! IMO this would be a great place for you to practice..

@Donotbelieve Aren't you already in a relationship?

@Donotbelieve A physical characteristic that can be controlled through exercise and healthy diet

@joeymf86 I understand. You take care of yourself. Understandable that you want someone who also takes care of themselves. Beautiful guys have been a weakness for me...

Also I see youre at level 4 after almost a year which suggests that you havent made many posts or replies at all. Most of the time women will not be the first to engage you on these sites, especially if there isnt a lot of info on your opinions already out there for their perusal. Your biggest problem is just lack of activity. Join some groups (I think theyre available at your level or soon will be if not) but put yourself out there more man. Go frolick amongst the messages and dance in the dandilions of replies. No promises on a girlfriend but youll def find some people to talk to if you engage with the groups that interest you.

Totally agree, and thanks for the input. I have left the dating scene several years ago due to the hermitage of my studies, so I have sort-of lost my way and gradually going back when it comes to that. I am more focused on friendships than anything else for the moment, people to speak with.

@JamesAnthony yeah and this site is great for that just keep an eye out for people you identify with or find funny or interestin, follow em and be yourself n post about things you like. Friendships are here aplenty, love my agnostic family (at least 80% of em lol)

Succinctly put! =]

If only I had the time, I probably would.

@JamesAnthony There is a group on this site for coders.. Have you joined? It's called Code Den.. I bet you would have a lot to offer there..

That makes sense, thanks for the advice. I haven't used the pull down menu to search for people so much recently, as I can't find that many people in my area, but for now I am just looking for friendships.

Wow, congrats! Best of luck in your relationship! I have been trying to look for a get-together in my area of town, but most are rather farther away from where I live.

@JamesAnthony Yes,the distance is a factor,you and she may be very compatible.but when and how do you get together? Winter's here in some areas,interact via texting and e mails, planning for a spring meeting?