You know by open and honest conversation. You know by the time you spend together and an enjoyment of each other's company. You know when you both rather spend more time with each other than anyone else. Flirtations can be difficult to read sometimes because it's meant to both tempt and test the other in their level of interest. Not everyone is good at reading signs and dropped hints. Some need that direct statement... actually I think most do.

I am currently vacationing with a site member and we've been getting to know each other - opposite coasts but we'll see what happens. Take one day at a time-live in the present-get to know each other then you'll know.

I kind of have this problem and I think the older you get the longer it takes for that strong feeling of desire to hit you. We start to choose partners more with our intellect rather than our emotions after a while. Which is absolutely healthy in my opinion. When the feeling does come and it's with someone you've chosen that way... it hits you like a ton of bricks. There's no way to miss it. You may have to forcefully open yourself up to it a little bit at first though. We develop too much emotional intelligence over time to just be randomly falling for everybody we're attracted to.

If they leave an article of clothing at your place, that’s usually a good sign.

you will know as there's a click between you. ever thought that maybe like me your relationships were more based on lust or just liking each other or even worse, peer pressure hence us both being single?

All these chemical reactions in the brain. It is not that they are special, only that you consider them as such for what ever reason, but it is much more about you than them. Bad Rugglesby the bubble burster. The longer you have been without someone special, the more likely you are to consider that someone is.

There is a point in time in a relationship where you want that person in your life and want what is best for him or her. It is when their happiness supercedes yours in your mind and they demonstrate that your happiness is of Paramount importance to them.

Sometimes I find myself feeling that a woman friend is special. I notice myself looking forward to seeing her with excitement. I'll find myself thinking about her when she's not around. Women apparently find this disturbing. It never happens in reverse.

I don't trust my own judgment on this anymore, since I think I talked myself into being "in love" every time, when I really wasn't. And I stayed in "wrong" relationships far longer than I should have. Had I been honest with myself--and not drunk on hormones--i probably never would have had a LTR. I'm glad I'm through with all that.

To answer your question: hell if I know.

I start smellng sweet things! Like baking. That’s how it hits me. And the conversation is effortless. Time also seems to alter.

I never have been great at recognizing signs until it's far too late, and in today's dating world, it's just so much harder with the addition of phone tech. I wish I could give advice, but I can't as I am a complete and utter failure at modern dating. Honesty is borderline non-existent, so all I can say is be careful and cautious, but keep an open mind and fingers crossed?

They take you home and make love to you.

Geeze... I don't have that desire to date. I can not answer without it being a guess. Good luck my friend.

Define "special."

I hate to be the downer, but I don't think you ever can.They may seem like "the One" at a particular moment in time, but as time goes on things change. You have to decide to take a chance or not.

I'm not good at it either. If someone is interested in me, I need for them to just tell me straight-up. I suck at mind-reading.

It’s not too mystical, I think the best way to know, is to ask.