I’m saddened to think that there’s people who believe that those are insults ?

" .... that worthless of a husband". Husband? Hell, father. You're far more a failure as a father than a husband if you do not help raise and care for your own child. Yeah, you might suck as a husband, but as a father, you are an utter failure.

While my ex and I didn’t work out, I’m forever grateful for what a great dad he was/is. He dang near shoved the nurse out of the way when she was about to change our firstborn’s diaper. She looked bewildered and he said he gets the first diaper!

I felt badly because he said people would sometimes give him funny looks when he’d take our girls out and about by himself.

Not boasting here in any way BUT in my lifetime I reckon I would have changed more dirty nappies ( diapers), wiped up more shitty arses, cleaned up more baby vomit/burped more babies, made more baby bottles and fed them to more babies, not including my own daughter to whom I fed almost every bottle she ever drank, than most men here.
After all, that's a part of being a Paediatric Nurse and Midwife's job and I loved every minute second of it.

IMO a real man does whatever is necessary to make his family successful.