Does the double standard still exist for women or Ursi's crazy Friday nights (part3).
So, I'm at my favorite local joint with my usual gang of friends. My "fiance" remembers me, but might have forgotten my name. Oops. We're out there dancing, and this girl in super high heels (maybe 5 inches) is out there dancing like she's a Solid Gold dancer to rockabilly blues music . I'm baffled. It's a small floor so we clear the way for other people to dance. At one point, during my recovery time, she grabs my hand and takes me out to the floor. She's going all out. Now, I can dance a long, long time - but she's not even breathing hard. Ok, I'm ready for an ambulance and I'm not even drinking. I've heard of chair dancing, but she literally picks up a chair, and holds it over her head while dancing. The band must know her, they don't seem alarmed at all.
Ok, here's someone I want to be friends with. Would you like to add this person to your shopping cart? Yep. So I ask others about her. Well, she sleeps around , but she turned the person telling me this down. I don't care, I go over and introduce myself to my new friend. She runs track, so that's why I'm ready for a body bag. I can do this. I can make female friends. We're talking outside, it's raining, I'm about t turn into a pumpkin, but my hair turns into a blonde afro first. Night's over.
My point being, it shouldn't matter if she sleeps around. I don't care. Why is this even an issue to people nowadays?
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Yes, it does still exist in some small peoples minds.
MarkiusMahamius
Level 7
Dec 22, 2018
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When I was a young adult, there were no birth control pills and "everyone" was religious (or kept their mouth shut). Women sleeping around was shamed. Within five years, birth control pills were available, and things changed. Cultures have been changing since then, but conservatives tend to perpetuate cultural norms, rather than change. Thus, there is a mixture of people who shame sleeping around, and some who do not.
EdEarl
Level 8
Dec 22, 2018
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Men have a way of dealing with rejection poorly.. by spreading rumors. I would take that with a grain of salt and find out yourself.
Ultimately it’s her body and life. You can appreciate her as a friend with her choices or not.
Green_eyes
Level 8
Dec 22, 2018
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And women don't? Since 90% of the time it is up to us to do the pursuing, how much rejection do women really put up with compared to men. It isn't even close. Most women wouldn't leave the house if they put up with the amount of rejection men face in the world of being single. Since l have been single half of my adult life, l am well versed on this subject. ☺
@Sticks48 you are correct. I should have been more specific. I was referring to this thread only.
I’ve been rejected plenty but I’ll never make up stories about someone to make myself feel better.
@Green_eyes I apologise. I promise, l have never said anything bad about someone who rejected me. You can't make someone feel something they don't, I would rather be the one being rejected, than the one doing the rejecting. I find disappointment or pain easier to deal with than guilt from hurting someone.
@Jolanta That is the point. How often does that happen to men? I suppose if two women ask a man out and he turned down one, you could say he turns down half of them. That really isn't the point. I don't think anyone should go out with someone they don't want to. We were discussing the amount of times men face rejection, because 90% of the time we are the ones expected to do the pursuing. I also don't believe it is a picnic to have to turn someone down. The mating game is difficult at its easiest, and a nightmare at its most difficult.
Not unless you care about nasty incurable diseases, and heartbreak. Try thinking with your actual head.......
On the other hand, it is easy to Say someone sleeps around, when maybe they are just outgoing, I would find out for myself if I were you!
AnneWimsey
Level 9
Dec 22, 2018
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Dealbreakers for me, believe it or not, are leechy/moochy - no job- depending on others for money/cars/phones/insurance - when you are able-minded and capable. Criminal records,. Being evil-spirited- cruelty. I was scanning for those. She has a good job - no indication of the others.
Couldn't agree with you more.....guys don't look down on other guys who "sleep around" - hell, most of them consider that some kind of badge of honor. Should be a non- starter..... It's hard enough to find other people (men and women) to be friends with who share some of our same interests and ideologies these days. Ursi, I hope you gals have some fun times and make some good memories - speaking from experience - I have girlfriends who still call and say "do you remember when we......." and we laugh and laugh and laugh. That is - ultimately - what it's all about - making some great memories while we're "all just passing thru." 
Lavergne
Level 8
Dec 22, 2018
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what was her phone number again?
CallMeDave
Level 8
Dec 22, 2018
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She gave me her card, lol. My company didn't give me a card. I stay locked in a dungeon where I belong.
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