After hearing horror tales from my daughters, friends, and women on here, I feel compelled to put this out there.

Ladies, while it may be hard to believe, I can assure you we're not all immature horny, skeevy neanderthals. And I understand why you're defensive & gunshy to even acknowledge the most innocent appearing unsolicited contacts you receive. You're tired of fighting off the pervs, emotionally dependent jutjobs, and mooches, and it's just not worth the risk anymore.

I get it. I don't blame you.

But I'm here to ask you to not give up, and not write us all off just yet. Or at least not me, and I know there are others here as well. Like I said, we're not all horny pervs (and even if some are we have enough decorum, self control, and respect to keep it under control ).

I, for one want to offer you the following list of promises.

I promise:

• I will always treat you with respect
• I will not treat you as an object
• I will always assume you're at least as smart as me, if not smarter - so I won't, for instance, try to "mansplain" things to you. I'll assume you know what I'm talking about unless you indicate otherwise, just like I'll let you know when I need further clarification.
• I will always be honest with you, so feel free to ask me anything. If I don't want to talk about something I'll let you know (but honestly I can't think of anything I won't tell about). Good relationships are built on a foundation of honesty & trust, and like all foundations that has to be laid down from the start.
• I will always be discreet; whatever happens between us in word, deed, or action will be held in the strictest confidence - always. I never EVER kiss and/or talk & tell. What happens between us, starts between us - forever.
• I will not make overtly sexual or perverse advances towards you, especially unsolicited. And absolutely no unsolicited graphic photos (i.e. NO dick pics - ever)
• I'm not the needy, clingy type so you don't have to worry about me suddenly latching onto you. I believe a relationship should advance naturally & organically. If it so happens that it progresses into something more, great; if it doesn't then that's ok too, we can still be friends.
• I make a comfortable living, and I'm debt free (except for kids' college tuitions ). I will never ask for help or a handout, nor try to mooch off of you.
• I have no ulterior motives.
• I won't ghost you. That's a coward, dick move.
• If I ask you out or invite you to an event, I don't expect anything in return - financially or in any other context. I invited you because I thought we'd have some fun, and I'd like the privilege of your company - nothing more.
• However, should we hit it off and things progress, I will respect you enough to ensure you're feeling the same way. I make no assumptions. And I never pressure.

In summary, I will treat you with respect, as an equal. I won't to try to manipulate you or take advantage of you, and I will always be honest with you. I will conduct myself as a gentleman, and I am always discreet.

So, that's my commitment to you. Now that you know where I stand, should one of us reach out to the other in the future I hope this puts you a bit more at ease by giving you some idea of what to expect.

I look forward to talking & hanging out with you soon.

Thanks for reading.

--Rocky