WAS IT SOMETHING I SAID? --
I've been in contact with a member who's local to me so we agreed to meet for lunch but she canceled the day before then we rescheduled and she canceled again. Now she's deleted her account and is gone altogether.
Not my fault! I was just gonna have lunch and chat. So much for making a new friend.
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Puzzling for sure. But people have all kinds of issues.
GreatNani
Level 8
Jan 17, 2019
1
They certainly do.
@Sgt_Spanky and I agree with a prior poster. Fear, anxiety, etc. Could very well be the reason.
@GreatNani As I said, I suppose that's possible but I just don't see where the fear and anxiety is in something as innocuous as chatting over lunch. Still, as you said, people have all kinds of issues. Oh well.
At least she canceled and didn't stand you up. I think doing the latter is inexcuseable, not matter how scared you are. A couple months ago a woman from my local area on this site messaged me after having ghosted me several months before when she apparently left the site for about six months. When she came back, she messaged me, as I said, by replying to a PM I had sent her before she left. In the new PM, she said she hadn't meant to seem rejecting and gave me her e-mail address. I tried contacting her on that and she never replied. The games people play..
TomMcGiverin
Level 8
Jan 17, 2019
3
Yeah, I do appreciate that she cancelled rather than just standing me up. She gets points for that. I don't know what to make of the shit that woman pulled on you.
@Sgt_Spanky She wasn't the worst. A couple months ago I was stood up for a coffee meeting by a woman from Match. We made the plans 5 days before and when I got home and messaged her she claimed that she simply forgot. No apology tho for having forgot nor any display of caring about my feelings or saying she would like to make it up to me by trying to meet ASAP. So I just took it all as a lie and that she just hadn't been interested. I messaged her that she needed to quit playing games with others and that I hope her attitude catches up with her.
I think some people are just so fucked up mentally that they use sites like this and paid dating sites as ways to feed their ego by seeing how much attention they can get and playing games with others for their amusement, rather than having a sincere interest in making friends on this site or dating people on the paid sites.
@TomMcGiverin Bitch! Her, I mean, not you.
@Sgt_Spanky Careful there Spanky.. I appreciate the sympathy, but using that term, no matter how much I loathe what she did, will get you in trouble with the women on here. I prefer to keep my equal gender opportunity terms for offline when I run across men and women who deserve vulgar labels for their character and personality. No point in alienating the women on this site.
She probably got scared. If that is the case I can pretty much guarantee she is feeling way worse about the situation than you. Sucks though, sorry.
MsAl
Level 8
Jan 17, 2019
1
I suppose that's possible but why would someone be scared to chat over lunch? It's a very low stakes situation.
@irascible I make a fool out of myself three times a day at least. Even if I see it coming from a mile away.You can't let that stop you.
@Sgt_Spanky some people panic at walking out the door of their homes
Maybe she just chickened out, I mean, really bad. I get anxious over meeting people and getting out of the house and out of my comfort zone and I have canceled dates for no reason, I was just too chicken to go. 
Sorry it happened to you.
CaroleKay
Level 8
Jan 17, 2019
2
Surprising.
For what it's worth, if you were local, I'd invite you out for a drink...and then I guess you'd cancel but I'd still give it a go.
I wouldn't cancel now. I learned that if do nothing, nothing will happen. I'm bored of that. I've grown.
Don't stress. Move on.
Beowulfsfriend
Level 9
Jan 17, 2019
0
I'm not stressed. There was no emotional investment. I'm just puzzled.
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