Hi, I'm back. I've been in hospitals. Diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and had the Whipple surgery a few weeks ago. My cat, Dazzle stayed alone at home with lots of food and water and someone to check on him and clean his potty box. I see that there are 100 posts by cat people, so I'm about to dig in.
What you are going through is noot easy. I hope you have people who support and help you. Kate has a condition almost nothing is known about, denial is easy when nothing is known, but everything is a new problem. May you have great doctors and friends to care for and give you love.