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I felt a bit weird writing out my biography last night. As much as I know about myself I don't really think much about putting it into words.

I laughed when I saw that I was "level 1". If there is anything that describes how I feel as a single person it would be that I definitely feel like a "Level 1" or a beginner at being single. I have no clue what is going on.

After being married for 28 years, the last 3 of that being only on paper, I hadn't had a significant other in a long while. It's taken a minute to get to the point of signing up here. I've known about it, just didn't take the time or really feel like it.

I do like the fact that I can find and meet other non-believers who I may have not met in the local Freethought circles.

I'm currently in a state of mind that is making my online atheist presence less of an importance to me. I've had friends who were involved heavily in the atheist movement and podcasts, etc., that got to a point where making their atheism known was unimportant and even cumbersome. I didn't understand it, but now I think I do. I'm in the same boat now. Still 100% an atheist and plan on remaining unapologetic about that fact, just don't need or want to worry about it too much. I was formerly apathetic about religion. I could never fully be that again, but I'm trying, Ringo. I'm trying real hard.

But if anyone has any tips on "how to be single" I am definitely in need. So far I've just been continuing to breathe and living life a day at a time.

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Welcome and congratulations on making a huge life transition.

UUNJ Level 8 Feb 13, 2019
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One day at a time.. been there. Take as many days as you need to rediscover how joyous life can be. If you need a good chat, you’ll definitely find that here.

Marz Level 7 Feb 7, 2019
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Welcome fellow Texan. This is the funnest place to put your head. ....your service to your community is, I'm sure appreciated, as well as self graitifying.

HankSherman Level 7 Feb 1, 2019
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Welcome! Good advice from the other posters here. I don't see this as a dating site any more; there really isn't enough of a pool of available people yet. But I love the community. Lots of funny, smart, like-minded people.

GinaKay Level 7 Jan 30, 2019
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I found this website after losing my wife of 27 years to lung cancer,saw an ad on facebook and decided to see what it was about,been here since May,2018,interact,create thought provoking posts when you are high enough in the ratings list.

Mike1947 Level 7 Jan 30, 2019
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Hello and welcome. Just engage a bit, the points add up quickly. You’ll be able to join different groups that meet your interests.

Green_eyes Level 7 Jan 30, 2019
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I feel your pain, if past passion.. Never mind the ‘levels,’ they’re as much an indicator of addiction as acceptance.

I’d put off joining, too ..back then. A dating site? It’s more of a community, to me. I fall in love too easy ..so it’s likely a good thing there’s mountain ranges & oceans between me and some of these solid women smile001.gif

OK, you’re in TX (yuck?). I’m from Oregon, now on the Blue Ridge plateau of Virginia. Had I not found anything around here, plans were to shoot through TX toward the SW ..and CA. But I’ve found a home, after 29 + 1 years ‘married/ with.’

Married at 22, she was 19 ...we were children. In fact, we’ve unmarried ‘children’ older than that (and good for them!) Never got good at ‘dating,’ which may be (and having listened to a bunch of friends) what got me into a botched romance with a borderline personality disordered woman. In a way, I’m still shellshocked, or gunshy smile005.gif

Just took on a new part time job, as I ease toward retirement. It’s got a lot of potential for ‘finding someone,’ far more than the solitary stuff I’d been doing. Seems anyone in my village with all their teeth, in decent shape, doesn't smoke and isn’t covered in whiskers … is a near instant attraction to it’s female residents.

But, having lived alone now for ..3 years, it’s addictive. So she’s gonna have to fall onto my arms and it’s gonna have to be love at first sight, I’m afraid. There’s single men & woman of my age all over the place though, all grumbling ..yet constantly checking out opportunities..

Stick around. There are disappointingly few Active (even former) Atheists around, though.. most folks have their heads on straight … and maybe those like ourselves can take pride in having blazed enough trail they feel safe just being Atheists (Agnostics occasionally peek out), and no need to be active - let alone militant. Me, I’ll miss the Murray O’Hair’s forever, having met & corresponded some.

Varn Level 8 Jan 30, 2019
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Welcome to the community. We all start at 1. You already made it to 2!

Dandewine Level 7 Jan 30, 2019
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Welcome to the site. As others have pointed out, there are many groups here whether you are single and looking for a coffee group or animal lover group, I think just about everything is here. Being single can be a challenge but it's where we find ourselves at the present moment. I think I saw you live in the Dallas area? Quite a big city and Metropolitan area as you well know, not sure how many athiests and agnostics there are running around - sounds like you might have a better handle on that. Anyway, have fun and kick the tires.

IrishTxJudy Level 7 Jan 30, 2019
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Hello and welcome. The best piece of advice I received when joining was to look at the site as kind of a Facebook for atheists. There’s lots of community and it’s not just for dating. I’m in Minnesota and there aren’t many dating prospects in my area. However I love the groups and conversations

Marcie1974 Level 8 Jan 30, 2019
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Listen and truly communicate with others... don't try to sell a version of yourself. If you're really open to interchange with the people around you (in 3D or a place like here) people will be attracted to you. All the best! Looking forward to seeing you around.

PalacinkyPDX Level 8 Jan 30, 2019
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Welcome. The "level" indicator simply indicates how active you are here with posting and replying to stuff. There are numerous singles & dating groups for you to join... as well as groups on diverse subjects and interests. Look around!
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bigpawbullets Level 8 Jan 30, 2019
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