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So, I have secretly been becoming secretly attracted to someone on this site, but they're not nearby. what's the best way to proceed?

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I have that problem all the time. Good luck.

Lisamarie68 Level 5 Feb 18, 2019
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Okay, update. Holy shit... I just sent a message and actually hit send. We'll see!!! Fingers crossed.

Unclehotrod Level 5 Feb 11, 2019
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I'd message them and let them know. Life is too short to have regrets. Besides, you never know what might happen.

Tyriel Level 4 Feb 10, 2019
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Geographical distance is one thing. Emotional distance is another. Having a deep connection with someone and not having a dialog with them will kill the passion faster than not sharing a neighborhood.

darkstar24 Level 3 Feb 10, 2019
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Sometimes it's more fun to have a secret crush than it is to maybe find out that they don't like you.

Stephanie99 Level 7 Feb 9, 2019
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Ha! Or maybe, that you don't really like them outside of your own fantasy. Been there!

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Check out their profile, message them with a question or comment about one of their interests

I suspect it is someone you have already interacted with and may know a bit about them; start there.

Lucy_Fehr Level 7 Feb 9, 2019
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Have you made contact with them?

darkstar24 Level 3 Feb 9, 2019
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Inquiring minds want to know! smile009.gif

I'm afraid to, to be honest. I can't relocate because of my business, and it sounds like she's committed to where she is.

I guess that I'm afraid of really liking her and not being able to do anything about it.

She should be just down the street from me.

@Unclehotrod Sounds like it to your ears may not be accurate but I get why you would hesitate.

I myself am not in a position to move at this time but absolutely will be in a few years and even that could possibly change.

Perhaps she is only committed for a period of time that can be worked with.

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Skype. Best have a face to face conversation before buying airline tickets.

snytiger6 Level 8 Feb 9, 2019
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Don't send a dic pic.

Stephanie99 Level 7 Feb 9, 2019
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I have more class than that.

@Unclehotrod I assume so. It was a joke.

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Secretly buy a secret home close to them.

indirect76 Level 7 Feb 9, 2019
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Just show up at their door unannounced?

@PalacinkyPDX Yes, but secretly.

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Send her a message!

Anniemae Level 8 Feb 9, 2019
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She? He used gender neutral pronouns. smile009.gif

@PalacinkyPDX I stand corrected!

Actually, about the third comment he made he dd say 'she' so no correction necessary...

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Exactly what Geoffrey51 said.

Gypsy494 Level 6 Feb 9, 2019
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Just send a private message and see what happens.

ProudMerrie Level 7 Feb 9, 2019
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There is nothing like the direct approach...we are not mind readers!

Marionville Level 9 Feb 9, 2019
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Don't send nudes !

FableAce Level 2 Feb 9, 2019
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Oooh how exciting...I am going to be guessing all day smile009.gif

Amisja Level 8 Feb 9, 2019
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Yup, I don't have a life, either. smile009.gif

I don't think he's going to come back and update us. He hasn't liked any of our suggestions, or interacted at all.

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Firstly, make sure you don’t come across as a stalker or an obsessive. Converse and see where it takes you. If there’s rapport you’ll both recognise it, if not it will fade. Just make sure if relationship is not reciprocated you don’t chase.

Geoffrey51 Level 7 Feb 9, 2019
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