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It gives me skin crawly heebie jeebies to know that an ex , who appeared to be in full agreement with me for over 11 years, that religion is bullshit, he is now a proud bible thumper in “ Gods Army”(his words! ) I fully realize that it doesn’t affect me, as we are not even friends anymore...but it just makes me question everything! I am skeptical about everything everyone tells me about their “beliefs” now. I feel that we never really know each other at all. No one could change 180 degrees to be something completely different.... this shit was there the whole time and I saw no sign. He is completely emotionally blocked however, and that would explain his vulnerability to be sucked in by the jesus cult. I just needed to air this creepy feeling I have so I can release...I am not seeking any advice or comfort, thanks. But if you have had a similar experience, I would like to hear about it. ✌???

DeeWoman 7 Feb 12
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I hear ya and I do understand. I was once a believer and I took it all very seriously. The best wake up call to it all being nonsense is to understand that the bible as we know it today came along about 300 years after Jesus. Ministers are always talking of contemporaries of Jesus but the time frame stretches that a lot. It's all made up! People become believers and even stay believers because they have to have all the answers and religion pretends to give that to them.

wow! 300 years! I didn't know that. I did know that it is made up! ha! I'm glad that you discoverd this. I am amazed that you were able to see the truth, and curious to know how this happened? Did someone help to enlighten you , or was it a gradual understanding that came over you? Thank you for your reply.

@DeeWoman It was gradual for me but happened because I studied for the ministry. We hear of "early church fathers" and let it go because we believe these are people that knew those who knew Jesus. This idea is simply not so. St. Paul did not even know Jesus. Neither did Josephus.

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There are particular emotional vulnerabilities that make someone susceptible.

He may have been a full on atheist but that vulnerability is there to some extent in most people.
Add a bit of pressure from a church or cult? Instant new member.

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A friend who became my supervisor who is a spiritual Christian isn't my supervisor any longer now doesn't respond to a text oh well.

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An atheist college roommate and close friend was teaching at a Catholic school the last I knew.

JimG Level 8 Feb 12, 2019
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I lost a best friend since grade school like this. We lived in different states, so didn’t see each other all the time, but through emails, she revealed that she is finally happy that she found Jesus. She was never religious growing up and we never discussed religion. We had plenty of other things to talk about.
But then she took a class at a local college on religions of the world. She found each one interesting in its own way. I thought that was cool to learn about them from a sociological point of view. But suddenly, she decided Christianity was for her and she went to church and bible study classes, the whole deal.
I found we didn’t connect anymore. She was a completely different person than the friend I knew. When she tried to encourage me to go to a church for support, I felt extremely uncomfortable and betrayed. We drifted apart and haven’t spoken in several years.

that's hard to lose a friend that way. and so strange, isn't it? thank you for sharing this.

@DeeWoman yes, very strange. And heart breaking.

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My ex joined an Indian cult. This is now some years ago. We are it touch only because we have property together but that will soon end. I only talk to him when I have to and am happy that it will end one day in the near future. The Indian cult is not much better than believing in God. They are all brain washed. In this cult one of the things is that one has to be celibate, both men and women or you don't get to belong or attend the inner sanctum. Twatt as far as I am concerned, although I do like their vegetarian food.

the sexual abstinance that some thumpers embrace ,I'm sure was a big pull for my ex...the boy had some serious unresolved issues!! he just kept pushing me away until we only had sex once a year! and I , personally, would like it once a DAY!! ha! that was not pleasant, I tell ya. Yet I remained faithful to him, but not at all happy. Thank you for your input!

@DeeWoman Yes when he joined, and I asked him what he was going to do about that were one thing, he told me he was going to "ease me into it". Now how he was going to think that I would not notice is beyond me.

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