Hi. Sorry to hear of your troubles. I'd go along with some of the previous advice; specifically, going to stay with friends/relatives for as long as you can. He won't be able to take a significant period alone.

One thing; before you go, take pictures/video of the entire flat. Would be useful if you could have someone else with you as a 'witness'.

Hope this is useful.

Hi KMac. I'm new here so just browsing when I came across your post. All I can say is I hope you are okay and life is getting better. There are some real assholes in the world and it seems you found one, he obviously thought moving into a flat with you meant more than it has/does, delusional prick.

Used to. Not anymore. The best thing you can do is go LC (low contact) or NC (no contact). Until you can separate from the person, you should try the grey rock technique which is specifically designed to deal with narcs. Here ate two articles explaining it: [themindsjournal.com]

[hackspirit.com]

Hope this helps you.

The narcisist is my flatmate and we have 3 months left on the tenancy and then, as far as I am aware, he's leaving. I love the flat and I was the one who did everything get us both moved in there and he treats me like I'm his 'staff'. I have no move now and I had take out a loan get the move in. I am now going counselling due the stress and abuse I am suffering by living with this 'person' for the past 9 months. I am about 99.9% certain that he told our estate agent last week, on Monday, that I was smoking in the flat, which is untrue (actually he's done that a few times himself but I'm not the kind of person to tell) and then last Friday evening, he rang the police to complain that I was speaking to him in a way that he didn't like. He also made up a few lies about me and told them to the police officers. He's frankly looking for ANY reason to mess me up. So, in one week, he's tried to get me evicted and arrested. For what? We had a verbal argument and falling out about a month ago where I told him that I think he's a narcissist! Ha! He was gloating last night about ringing the police on me. He was speaking directly outside my bedroom door so that I would hear him talk about how "funny it was" and that he will "gladly ring the cops again every day of the week" if I do or say anything that he doesn't like. However, this is not a funny situation to me and I'm starting to become very unwell mentally. I have tried the 'grey rock' method for a month now to where I am living in my small bedroom and not speaking to him so to avoid him. I have a lot of pressures in my life (trying to finish my PhD, financial issues, stressful job, not much of a support network, etc). He is aware of this and I can imagine he is enjoying seeing me so upset and unwell. Narcissists love it when the person they are taking revenge on starts to fall apart. I can move out but this will financially ruin me. I have seen lots of people say to just get out of any relationship with a narcisist so I am very aware that I will probably have to move out. I'm looking at either a) toughing it out for 3 more months of abuse and lies, or b) leaving with financial ruin. Any advice?

My husband of 17 years. A year and a half after shoving him out the door, I am still gradually peeling back layer after layer of the manipulation to which he subjected me.

Raised by one, my mother. I had to cut her out of my life like the cancer she is. Life is so much better now.

Luckily no.