Religion does have the social aspect down. Something we Atheists lack. I know, for instance, that many Facebook freethinking groups have 10 times (sometimes more) the members compared to the actual numbers who show up for meetups

I have mad respect for your ability to realize and overcome the six points you listed. I was raised without religion, so I kind of got here for free. You had the fight your way here. Welcome aboard and don’t stop thinking!

If you have not read Erich Fromm's ESCAPE FROM FREEDOM, yoo may find it useful in explaiuning why religion had a hold on you for so long.  Let me know if you do find it helpful.

The doctrine of hell is what drove me AWAY! It took a while to work through the gobblygook Christians throw at you on the subject, to get to the central point: for hell to exist, god would've had to create it, period.
So god must be made up because there is NO WAY a real god would create such an evil place.
There were many, many other things, but that was the first dealbreaker for me.

Clear signs of a wake up . . . . now it time to feed it . . . . explore . . . . when I woke up, I had started reading philosophy, Aldous Huxley, Jean Paul Sartre, Albert Camus, Friedrich Nietzsche, it did not take long. I had a niece who was staying with my brother who was under the spell of christianity, along with his wife who was way far gone . . . . so his wife starts going through my niece's things, destroying or throwing out anything that she deems to be anti-christian, including things like music. She destroys everything like that, whatever my niece has . . . . . but the one thing she missed was a big book by Friedrich Nietzsche, which includes a chapter called fittingly "The Antichrist"! Here it is in all its glory . . . . . [gutenberg.org] Enjoy . . . .