For the past 30 years I have known an assexual man who owns a bar here. (He's English, but lives in South East Spain). He has many friends, male and female, and is remarkably companionable. Surely he cannot be the only one in the world.
Somewhere in your neck of the woods there must be one. Don't lose hope - and don't lose your identity (or anything else) due to social pressures. In the words of Per Gynt, in Ibsen's play, "To yourself be true."
It doesn't have to be a man, but I think a loving, assexual man, especially an older one, is more possible to find than a woman. Could be wrong of course!

theres nothing wrong with sex

Sex is important to a lot of people, but sometimes people think they want sex when they really want intimacy...which doesn't have to be sexual. I would say just be honest with her and yourself about what you want and give her room to do the same. Maybe she doesn't realize you are feeling pressured.

I'm a bsexual. I like to bsexual as often as possible.

Please elaborate more about how you are worried that you are disillusioning yourself as far as sex goes.
Do you mean that because you are both women you thought that perhaps she might not put much of an emphasis on the sexual part of your relationship?

I am not A sexual, if you were doing to me what you are doing to her, I would be right mad, putting all my feelings and soul into you and then you not wanting to have sex with me, Does she not know you are a sexual, did you not tell her? That would be deception, and is not nice, you need to upfront, because a lot of people enjoy sex and its important to them. I have nothing against a sexual and understand you don't want sex all good, but do not lie to anyone. Especially about sex, that would be awful,. Tell her how you feel immediately.

I feel you. Sex for me is a chore, and I don't really have that much enjoyment with it. I'm asexual from medical problems, though, so I don't know if it's different.

It seems like every dating site I use, no matter how largely I type "ASEXUAL" I almost ALWAYS get nothing but people looking for sex. No matter how great a conversation is it always turns to sex, can we sext, how big are your tits? Etc

The reason it is frustrating is because I have told them multiple times and they can't respect that.

They need to respect your feelings

The way I see it, if you want to have sex with somebody.....it's great!! And it's even better when YOU both want to have sex with each other. it's good for the body and soul. When you lose interest.....well, you are really in trouble. Enjoy it while you can. We all end up worm food sooner or later.

Does she know of your asexuality and understand it? Is there an expectation that way? I sympathize with your feeling drawn while being ace. I am not ace per se, but understand wanting companionship without sexual pressure.

Are you truly asexual ? No desire at all - to either gender ? Ever ? Do you enjoy affection and touching from this woman, or are you more comfortable being stictly "pals" ?
Does she know how you feel - about going too fast ?

LOL! You are so right. I used to belong to an asexual dating forum, and people would go weeks, even months between posts, most threads running for over a year, with few responses, and nobody ever seemed to get together with anyone.

I concluded that sexual attraction drives most courtship. For instance, I'm demisexual, with a very high libido, but not for a particular person or gender.

Since I can only be attracted to one person at a time, and only after over a year of courtship, I have little motivation to seek out or respond to people seeking mates.
That's why I joined this website, which seems to be as much, or more, for conversation as dating.

It's highly unlikely I'd find someone my age and interests who lives near me on this small website, but there's always a chance, so I gave it a go.

I don't think this is true. I actually think sex is an incidental. But I'm old so it may be different at different ages.