Tonight I decided to go on my ex's timeline to see if she had posted any pictures of our boys. It was a bit of a shock to see she was in a relationship with the guy I new she was with before we split up. Kind of brings closer kind of brings I do not know what.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I’m sorry, but time becomes your friend, and you have to let it. A solid decade removed from about the same, I’m so finished with ‘her.’ She remarried nearly instantly, I’ve not, with no plans to. Did 30 years..
Kids make it far more difficult, but they’re worth it. They’ll sort it out, too. I know better than to suggest you simply ‘move on,’ but in time, you will. Stay strong (or as weak as you need to be) till then ~
Varn
Level 8
May 4, 2019
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Just remember to resist the temptation to cyber stalk because watching her live her life with no regard to you is bad for your mental health.
RobertFoley
Level 6
May 4, 2019
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Agreed. This is especially true if she ended it and you still have feelings for her
@celticagent no it is just processing this that is hard I am long over her
Dont worry, she'll be seeing someone else on the side soon enough.
1of5
Level 8
May 4, 2019
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Probably that is why I should not be surprised
1of5:
@DavidGreen1 no, you shouldn't be. Some people just aren't cut out to be monogamous, just like some people aren't cut out to be poly.
@1of5 Poly now that's a thought.
1of5:
@DavidGreen1 it has its own pitfalls. 
@1of5 I can see that just balancing the time
If you knew before you split why is it a shock? Just a confirmation of what you knew.
If you want her back - work at it. If not, walk away, stay open to your boys, look at new life choices and chances
ShadowAmicus
Level 8
May 3, 2019
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You can congratulate yourself for making the right move to divorce in that case.
Focus on the love you have for your boys and everything else will fall into place.
Athena
Level 8
May 3, 2019
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Thank you good advice
hang on in there. I was married for 29 years. divorced in 2008. had a girlfriend for 10 years since then. we split up this year. Guess who am still friends with. Have two sons both are older now than when i got married
magicwatch
Level 7
May 3, 2019
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Varn:
Wow - a near identical history! Though I’ve girls ..and so proud they didn’t marry at age 22. My after-marriage R/S only lasted 3 years.. Free at last ..free at last ...thank dog-all-mighty 
I am sorry . That would be painful.
Bigwavedave
Level 8
May 3, 2019
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Don't think it hurts so much as to know someone is trying to replace me with my boys. Her I am over she made her choice.
If it turns out there's another person your boys can count on for support, that's not a bad thing. However, you'll always be their dad. There is no replacing you.
@DavidGreen1 you are dad. Not replaceable. He is just someone else to support them and hopefully be a good influence. You are Dad.
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