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Do you believe yourself to be a good parent? And WHY?

Seeker3CO 8 May 11
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I am mostly good. I treat others as I woudl want ot be treated. However, I am not always willing to help... especially if the person's problems was the result of their own stupidity.

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I'm a fantastic parent because I knew I'd be a crappy dad and choose never to have children.

1of5 Level 8 May 12, 2019
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I try. I do, and did, my best. I never spanked or hit my kids. I taught them that everything has a consequence: good or bad. Their choice. Both have thanked me for that.
I don’t own them, nor do they ‘owe’ me anything just because I’m their mom. What I give them is freely given from unconditional love. I expect no more or less in return.
I tried to break the cycle of abuse from my mother, though she was never abusive to them. Thankfully. My son cannot handle stress, so he drinks. I’ve learned to accept that I didn’t cause that, nor can I change it. My daughter has always known who she is: strong woman.
My biggest strength, in my opinion, is the strength of my love.

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I am an awesome parent! I know this because I raised a kind, responsible, thoughtful and empathic young man. And I managed to do that in spite of his other parent being none of those things.

@Seeker3CO I did it by being the opposite of my narcissistic mother. I had a mental list, and used conscious, daily effort to be different.

I've got a great kid, but I think she was born great and stayed great, I just fed her n stuff.

@Seeker3CO honestly, part of it was probably the excellent example of what kind of man he did NOT want to be.

@Seeker3CO but also, by being a little lazy 😂. If he could do something himself, I taught him to do it, and then let him. Instead of solving problems for him, we talked about how HE could solve problems and let him do that.

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My son and my daughter have 28 years between them, I was not present for much of my son's childhood for a lot of the time but in recent years he has given me love and respect. My daughter is 18 and I am her rock, her mother rejected her at around 11 or 12 and I have fulfilled both roles since. My acceptance of being a good parent is from compliments paid to me about my daughter by good friends that do not speak in platitudes.
I accept those and feel empowered by the reactions both of my children now give me.
Net result is I am a very content and happy person.

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My sons grandson and I are very close family wouldn't be that close without love that is a sign of a good parent

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I was a terrible mother, but not too bad as a dad and a cook🙂
My daughter turns 21, in the 21st and is an intelligent, compassionate person- who figured out for herself that she didn’t buy into the religious stories her friends were being fed.

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My daughter Claire, 29, writes me beautiful, loving Mother's Day and birthday cards. I save them with the date. Excerpts:

Age 21: "Mom, Thank you for loving me unconditionally even through the hardest times with me. I love and appreciate you so much."

Age 22: "As I'm growing, my appreciation for you has grown more. You have always taken care of my every need and been so affectionate and loving. I admire your strength, independence and intelligence. Thank you so being so patient, understanding and loving with me. You motivate me to stay fit and healthy and take care of myself. I love you, Mom. You are the BEST!"

Age 24: "Thank you for your unconditional love, support and patience. You have never given up on me, and taught me the strength and drive I continue to work on every day."

Age 25: "You're my inspiration and role model. You're drop dead gorgeous and beyond fit and healthy. I'm so happy you had me eat so healthy as a child. I now know how to adapt those food to my everyday life, and they are delicious. I hope as I mature, we can strengthen our relationship and friendship. I love you so much, Mom! Thank you for everything."

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  1. Mother's Day gift from Claire, 23. She made this collage on her Iphone.

  2. Claire, 29, and Matt's, 34, wedding in September 2018 at Lake Chelan, WA.

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f*ck no. 3 of them are still at least pseudo-christian.

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Yes and mind your own business

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