What do you look for in a man or a woman if you want a long term relationship, and whats more important...looks, ambition, or money
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.None of the above. Being able to see things from a reason based perspective and emotional stability.
JackPedigo
Level 9
June 7, 2019
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Honesty, honor and grace.
Genuine kindness adds a layer of beauty, no matter the physical features.
Ambition is good, but not to the detriment enjoying your loved ones.
Money makes life easier, but a lot of fun can be had for very little money, when enjoying the company of another, so definitely not a requirement.
Julie808
Level 8
June 7, 2019
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For me when i met the women i knew that someday would be my wife, was the respect that she had for her family, love her wholesomeness, loved the fact that she was a lady in all respects, but most of all i loved that she didnt play games, like some women i know. For me at the time, i respect her because she was a virgin, but then back in 1966 that wasnt unusual. It didnt hurt that she was also so beautiful, I guess it worked out, this May we have been married for 52 years. I set my priorities high, but it was all worth it.
TonyCarl1
Level 6
June 7, 2019
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When you get to my age and retirement, ambition is probably or should be, out of the picture. I am getting to the point that what I look for doesn't seem to matter anyway, so I will pass on sharing my priority here. I also think that many people, including some on these boards, are less than honest about what they really are looking for in a partner for an LTR because they are lying because they don't want to look shallow or else in denial about how they really choose and evaluate potential partners. I think this is especially true regarding online dating and somewhat less true regarding who the meet IRL.
TomMcGiverin
Level 8
June 7, 2019
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Kindness, intelligence, sense of humor, sense of responsibility
A2Jennifer
Level 8
June 6, 2019
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@NoPlanetB I mean, to be honest I can’t see getting involved with someone I’m not attracted to but that doesn’t mean anyone’s definition of attractive but mine. And I wouldn’t want to be with someone whose only goal in life is to do as little as possible (been there, done that, got the divorce decree) but their purpose doesn’t have to be “success” just... purpose. As for money, don’t need much just don’t spend more than you have! (Also experienced that and it was no pretty terrible)
Neither looks, ambition nor money are the measure of a person. Are they kind? Do they treat all people with respect and honor them, regardless of class or color? We are inculcated with the value that the more people earn and own, the more worthy they are of respect. We’ve internalized these teachings and contribute every day to a society bereft of love and morality. In addition to kindness, I seek someone who enjoys a physical touch, not simply in bed, but as a demonstration of love and affection.
Bobbyzen
Level 8
June 6, 2019
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I totally agree with you, but then again I'm a socialist. I think people who thing like us about materialism and wealth mattering more than kindness are unfortunately a small minority in America where greed is good and people are judged by their wealth or lack of it as to their value as human beings.
None of the above! Does he enjoy laughter? Will he dance! Is he a whiner, or a couch potato? Is his main topic of conversation his aches/pains/himself? Can he carry on an interesting conversation/discussion without throwing a tantrum if I do not agree? And fergawdssake, does he watch Fox? Deadbreaker!
AnneWimsey
Level 9
June 6, 2019
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Ha, ha, then I guess i qualify And a hearty YES to the dancing. When my daughter was in early 20's I told her, "find a guy that can fix a car and dance"
Intelligence, kindness, respect, fitness and a great sense of humor. Also, a great lover.
Found it! Ten years younger than me, Bill is a medical doctor. He is extremely fit, hilarious, loving, kind and patient with a private plane. Bill is an extraordinary lover.
I feel lucky.
"Where do you want to go?" he asks. Over the Cascade Mountains where I love to hike.
LiterateHiker
Level 9
June 6, 2019
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None of the above. I want him to be kind, generous and smart.
Corvislover
Level 7
June 6, 2019
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