I do not hate religion, or religious people. One of my closest friends was an army pastor (catholic himself) and we have discussions on morality, ethics, cricket, rugby, horse riding, cooking - usual discourse between adults apart from sex (taboo for catholics).
The prescence of god at a battle? If soldiers were helped to get through it by believing in a god - I am fine with it. That both sides claim gods support is enough evidence for me to know he does not exist.

I no longer have a struggle with the part that I once believed. I still have a few quibbles with how the believers that I once associated with still behave.

It sounds natural to hate an affiliation that ostracizes you for being not believing in their way. As many point out though, hatred begets hatred. It reminded of an old saying. "Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die." Hate is the same way. Even so, if it's painful, maybe you should avoid it, or learn a new approach.

For me personally I find it close to the same feeling I have for my divorce, I'm comfortable with living alone, but wish I didn't have too. Its alot cheaper and easier to handle than divorce, but it follows you around and haunts you at moments of weakness.

Pity the victims, (including all genuine believers) hate the idea. Not complicated, it only gets difficult when some believers use it to expliot or abuse others.

How so do you diminish your beliefs?

Don't give in to the misinformed so-called believers