I read the Kama Sutra to discover more ways!
My attitude is this "Early on learn about their past to see if they are compatible and a risk worth taking in investing myself in a relationship with them. After gathering enough data to decide that I'm all in, then learn about their past to understand how they need to be loved". Ronnie Raygun, who I despised but at least had this right, said, " Trust, but verify"..