Your happiness is my misfortune - that is the logic of tribal thinking. A zero-sum game. If rights are not won, but privileges are abolished, the measure of social progress is not the freedom gained, but the repression distributed as evenly as possible.
It is an example of dualistic thinking at its worst. Happiness and misfortune are in different categories altogether. Happiness is the default, universal state. To achieve the sensation of misfortune a person has to go through mental contortions, continually feeding untrue thoughts into his subconscious mind.
It takes hard work and determination to achieve unhappiness, and it begins with the belief that you are guilty and need to be punished or the fear that your tribe is under attack or is going to be absorbed by others.
Maybe there’s survival value to a tribe in the whipping up of fear, anger, outrage, etc. For society at large though it would be more beneficial to identify mainly with the larger group—the state, the nation, the world, and to foster unity and peace.
Part of the “black or white” thinking fostered by religion. “Black lives matter” must mean that you want to kill cops. “Stop shooting children” means that you want to take guns from hunters. “No children in cages” means that you want open borders. This simplistic thinking is comforting to those who find thinking about things painful.
Like all other physical quantities, (mass, charge, spin, etc. ) happiness is in fact, conserved.