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Is it harder for women to get a date or for men?

UrsiMajor 8 Mar 16
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From my experience, it isn't that it's hard to get a date per se. It's hard to negotiate when or where to approach someone about the possibility of going out on a date. Just the term "date" almost implies some sort of ritual obligation. I prefer to meet someone somewhere, and each of us pay our own way. Firstly, because I believe that it's best not to have any expectations. And I also like to start off as friends and get to know someone well before even considering the possibility of a romantic relationship. With all the sexual harrassent issues in the news, I find myself even more reserved about approaching any woman about getting together for a drink or something to eat. And I consider myself a very respectful person when it comes to how to treat a woman.

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The way I see it and it might be bias. I think women have an easier time getting dates. But I think is because we’re more on the chase. Women usually get to choose and decide who they’ll talk to. Not that men just go with just anyone but, at least in my case I try to respond out of courtesy and I guess cause it’s a good way to just make conversation. Haha

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I haven't had a date for over 8 years. Being a 70 yrs young widow ether scares men away or they think I have Mega bucks and their profiles turn out to be a lie. Maybe my age is against me, but I'm ready for the next chapter of my life.

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Well men are supposed to make first move. A modern woman may take matters into her own hands. Depends.

I've had lots of women make the first contact on dating sites... Perhaps that's a West Coast thing.

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I think it works both ways and is equally challenging.

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It is specific to that person and the region and culture they are in. Culture and belief system plays a part...culture norms and view on gender roles...

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Here's an experiment I did when I was bored - go to Plenty of Fish (dating site), go to "Meet Me" section then to the "Rate Images" tab. You're basically clicking through random users and rating if their pic is appropriate or not. Leave it set to view both men and women then run through 100 of them, count how many women show up. My first 100 had 2 women, next 100 had 5 that I couldn't tell (pic of dog, car, meme, etc) but not a single obvious female.
This makes me think that there are a whole lot more men actively trying to find someone. Maybe most women just epxect to be "found"?

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Finding a date is crazy easy for a woman.

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I cannot answer the question because I am a man.

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For me it is.

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Idk, I don't have a good feeling about it. Am about to find out though. From my pov seems the quality of women rises as we age vs men, just simply by #s since women tend to live longer... and to begin with think 90% of the women are looking for the same smaller percentage of men.
I was hard to match even "back in the day", although I'm hoping my change in wants helps once really decide to dip toe in. I just want a moosh who's into me, isn't put off by a couple of dogs, that isn't a bum or a moron, that smells good, that's trustworthy. LOL
/and I've even softened to a little bit of beard, just a tad though

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I never ever had trouble getting a date. Don't know about anybody else, sorry.

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In general, I think it's easier for men. I think here in Florida, the ratio is something like 6 or 7 women for every man, probably because women tend to live longer than men. So men, even unattractive ones, can be very selective. Plus, the older the man, the more he wants a caretaker: a cook, a maid, a servant, etc. If a woman isn't willing to do all of those things, it seems to me, then she will remain alone as she ages.

I'm 68, and I do my own laundry, I grocery shop, can, and do, fix meals, fetch my own beer, generally clean up after myself, and don't ask or expect anyone to do those things for me; whether or not I'm in a relationship. I have no aversion to vacuuming, dusting, or doing dishes, either. Just sayin'...

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For a woman.

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I think it's pretty equal.

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