So my ex just announced the birth of his second child with the teenager he left me for and my mom is gushing over it and the fact that he was born on her birthday. It really sucks to deal with. I mean, it's been what, 5 years since we seperated, and I don't want to get back together or anything but it still hurts, you know? Mom says to get over it, but like, how? How do you stop feeling hurt by the person you have been in love with since you were three years old? The same man who decided that the incompetent toddler he left you for is a better match and then tried to sleep with you again as a SIDE PIECE.
The love I felt for him is dead like the miscarried child he just couldn't bear to have with me, yet could easily have with her, but the betrayal and hurt and loss is something I don't think will ever go away.
Okay I should have mentioned that my mom us a really great person whom I love dearly, and whom I view as my best friend.
I think the thing is, she just doesn't want to see me clinging to a hurtful past, but yes, her way of doing it is crappy. She's not a bad mom and she does acknowledge my feelings, she just doesn't like me sad.
Which I am not anymore. I'm just...frustrated and angry and resentful now lol
It sounds like you weren’t too happy with him to begin with, so good riddance.
As for your Mom, I’m sorry, but that’s a bitch move, to choose an ex over her daughter. My Mother did something similar to me (believed my ex’s story about me stealing from him, and cheating on him—in reality, he was on Meth and so paranoid he kidnapped my dog. He was known for his drug use, so it was an even harder blow, when she told me she believed his story.), I didn’t talk to her for a few years over it. Family might be a blood connection, but we don’t have to put up from abuse from them. You need to stand up for yourself and let her know you won’t subject yourself to her indifference of your feelings and mental well-being. Grief is an individual process, and betrayal mixed in, makes a more difficult recovery. One day you’ll wake up to realize how that pain is gone, it will have dulled to a faint memory.
Sometimes there will always be hurt. Minimize it , get away from it, right? Your mom, well she's just insensitive. As is mine. I guess there will always be a little hurt. Try playing a Cure album. Take it head on, absorb it, let it torture you and then dispose of it. Get up and walk again