I've been staying with my brother (a friend I've known since I was 15) and his husband to help them with expenses.
Tonight we had St Patrick's dinner, albeit a day late with some friends. We sit around the table and the subject of "grace" comes up. As in who's gonna say it. My brother knows I'm atheist so we do the whole "join hands" thing and my brother makes a comment in jest about his hand being burned from touching mine. He gave me the opportunity to say to our guests "I'm atheist". So they prayed and I just sat there, holding hands and staring at the corned beef. "In Jesus Name, Amen"
That was that. We ate, talked, laughed and my atheism wasn't even a thing... until later when our guest makes it a point to tell me he really believes his soul is saved because of what Jesus did on the cross. His wife is kicking him under the table and saying "He's atheist"
I chose not to engage, let it roll off like water on a duck's back. It frustrates me that it's even a thing. If you want to believe in a zombie middle eastern deity, go for it. You do you. Just let me be me.
You wisely chose not to die on that particular hill. It's tiresome when it's an issue, I have no doubt, although I personally have not significantly had that experience. The remnants of my family that are still staunchly fundamentalist are counter-innoculated with the unspoken code of midwestern reserve: "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything". Their conflict-averseness takes care of it for me.
Yeah. I'm always surprised when someone tries to convert me. They almost always assume that I am not smart enough to believe, and they are always shocked to find that I am actually intelligent. But that never stops some of them from trying.
It's none of my business what others believe. I just wish they'd feel the same way about me. Agreeing to disagree is often the only acceptable outcome.
Had a client serve me lunch on Friday. They (we) Prayed over the grilled cheese, holding hands. I even said "Amen" with them. The grilled cheese was excellent. Good conversation too. Not earth shattering, mostly about people we had in common. No hands were burned touching mine
So, yeah, we know that guest is a Fool (I'm sorry but I think anyone fortunate enough to live with all the advantages of a fully modern society such as ours and still believes in the manipulation and propaganda of the Christian savior story is fool), but we also see that he is a Tool as well. I don't suffer fools gladly. If they are also gonna be a Tool about it, now that just pisses me off. Letting it roll off was probably the right thing to do. That being said, you were probably a bigger person about it than I would have been, I think.