Most of what I learned I learned from the things that hurt. Here is a quote from K. Gibran. "The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain. Is not the cup which holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potters oven."
Here’s the real Leonard Cohen quote, from “Anthem”:
Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack, a crack in everything
That’s how the light gets in.
And the real Hemingway, from A Farewell to Arms:
If people bring so much courage to this world the world has to kill them to break them, so of course it kills them. The world breaks every one and afterward many are strong at the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially. If you are none of these you can be sure it will kill you too but there will be no special hurry.
Thanks.
It's always ok, or we die. And then we don't give a shit.