Hi, I'm new. After growing up in the church as a Jehovah's Witness, I stopped going once I became an adult. Before getting married at 18, my husband and I both agreed we would be a non religious household. Well, that's all changed and now he is a devout Christian (yawn) that believes I need to 'get right with "god". This is basically what I've been struggling with for about two months now and I'm finding it incredible diffucult to deal with, but I'm hanging in there! I'm hoping our newly religious differences don't tear our marriage apart but I can't seem to 'wake him up' to the realization that there's no flying man in the sky. Wish me luck!
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That is a challenge. I am sure you will support here 
Geoffrey51
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Sep 26, 2019
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You are certainly among friends here.
Truthseeker1968
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Sep 26, 2019
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It feels so great to know that I'm not alone in my way of thinking!
I do wish you luck. I'm afraid this disconnect may cause discord between the two of you in the future. I don't think I could have an honest LTR with a devout theist. I've been married fifty years in April. You might agree to go to church five or ten times if he will agree to go to free thought meetings five or ten times. Check beforehand to see if your group is welcoming to your goal. Maybe one of you will transition. Much of the church appeal is the social aspect. At least you'll find out if he is rational. All the best.
rogueflyer
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Jan 6, 2020
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At 18 you both decided to be non religious, at 23 you discover your agnostic. Your spouse discovers christianity. Are you both moving in different directions? Perhaps the root of the issue is a young couple finding different pathways, while you feel your consistent your spouse may feel constraints from a previous agreed path. Are their children involved? Other life changing events? How important is it to you both to share a belief or can each accommodate the other. It would seem 1st decide can you accept this new reality for yourself. If yes then can you both agree to differ and respect that in each other.
Tooreen
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Sep 28, 2019
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He needs to keep things in perspective. His marriage should come first. He's free to worship the great whatsis in the sky if he wants but he must also respect your choice not to. That goes for you as well. If you both can't accept each other's religious differences, it could become a serious problem, even a dealbreaker.
Best of luck.
Sgt_Spanky
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Sep 28, 2019
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Why does he have to get right with God?
sirbikesalot06
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Sep 27, 2019
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He cheated on his most recent deployment (he’s in the army) and he says that he’s going to hell because he stepped out of our marriage. So he’s trying to ‘wash his sins away’ and get right with god
@KMarie123 He needs to get right with you, not God. He cheated on you, your marriage, not God. Counseling might help if there is enough love and forgiveness between you, and he can take responsibility for his actions, instead of thinking God will make it right. It's him and only him that can make things right between you if that's even possible. Being on the same page spiritually would help, for sure.
I wish you luck but I don't seeing that being any different than thoughts and prayers. Use wisdom. That can make things happen.
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