Agnostic.com

36 27

Does this quote resonate with you?

“Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won't either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.” ~Louise Erdrich

Allamanda 8 Oct 22
Share

Enjoy being online again!

Welcome to the community of good people who base their values on evidence and appreciate civil discourse - the social network you will enjoy.

Create your free account

36 comments (26 - 36)

Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.

1

Sure does

0

Yep, hits a little too close to home, especially the thought of solitude breaking me. I fear it already has in a lot of ways, but none that can’t be mostly healed one day. It’s certainly not for fear or unwillingness to love, feel, or risk my heart. If anything it’s that I’m too willing. Or it’s just the way life’s been so far, with too few chances to do so. It’ll turn around, or it won’t, and I’ll sit under the apple tree, until I don’t. I feel I’ve already learned this lesson a thousand times over, and there’s not much I can do about indulging it any further than I have. So I guess I’m already at the stage of acceptance of the last sentence mostly, on my better days. It’s decently well-put advice many ought to heed though.

0

I tend not to like anything that says "have to" or "you are here to" as it seems like an instruction, and I like to decide for myself how I will live my life, and always have hope.

Chances are we all WILL love, we WILL experience loss, pain, we WILL yearn to feel emotions, we WILL be overwhelmed at times, but yes, it's good to take time away from what we feel we are missing and enjoy the beauty and pleasures around us, no matter how small, and appreciate what we have, and accept that we don't always have that perfect balance we desire all the time.

This quote seems to indicate the feeling that the tide has gone out, and there is no more hope that the tide will come back in and bring us more things to love, experience and enjoy.

@Allamanda I guess I'm a defiant toddler. I like to feel in control of my own choices. I prefer prescriptions to be more in the form of suggestions, or choices not mandates. But aside from that, it also seems like it ends with a lack of hope, and I prefer to entertain hope.

A trick that used to work on me as a toddler is a choice of whether I wanted "peanut butter and jelly" or "jelly and peanut butter" on my sandwich. Small choices is all I ask, haha!

0

There is no "one size fits all" for humanity.

0

Doesn't resonate with me at all.

0

Nah. Sounds like you are a victim. None of us are. Life is pain. Pain is learning and growth.

@Allamanda The tone it is written in sounds like complaining and feeling like the victim.

0

I prefer the Phoenix story. This one sounds too much like giving up. Death will break me/ or end me.

0

No, I don't think "you are here" for any specific reason at all. Some people have wonderful lives, some terrible lives, some somewhere in the spectrum between the two. It's just the luck of the draw.
I DO think believing that can make life more bearable for those who suffer. I suffer sometimes. Right now things are pretty good, and I hope it stays that way!
But when I have been in the midst of torturous pain, it helped to know I wasn't alone.
I guess that's why I liked Dylan so much: he didn't sugar-coat life and pretend everything was great and the only possible problem was whether or not some girl loved him or not. In fact, he was sick of life and made sure everybody knew it!
Anyway, I try to remember the bad times, know they may come again, and try to help out if possible.
And I know EVERYBODY has the final "bad time" when the time comes, so I try to enjoy it when and if I can, and hope for the best.

@Allamanda If you can do that, good for you and I absolutely agree.

0

Sea Grapes....they taste terrible.

They also make pretty leis, when strung together.

They are good for holding the soil together on sandy beaches @Julie808

0

Life will knock you around, but has no conscientious intention of breaking you. Our reason for being is to reproduce, I feel, and felt that a noble calling. I find the quote above an esoteric description of acceptance, if not understanding our place within life’s cycle.

Life is a cycle, and where you are within that cycle evolves. You can’t reverse it, and you’ve never been where you currently are.. We should make the effort to do positive acts that move humanity in a healthy direction. With life experience, let’s share our knowledge, set a healthy example ..and focus further afield than our own backyard.

What are those berries? ...and can you hear them drop 🙂

Varn Level 8 Oct 22, 2019

@Allamanda I go there, but as men are rarely allowed to show it, let alone describe it, most often we don’t.. But how dare someone declared we can’t.

Giving ‘life’ a conscience is an act of belief. Calling it as it is is perhaps something men learn to do by necessity ...in order to protect those dependent on us..

You sound bitter ..like ‘tree grapes’?

My reason for being wasn’t related to having children. I had no intention of having children. And there has been no noble calling.

For some it is probably a biological urge, but that is not a universal process or I would have either succumbed to it or fought it. Fortunately for me neither was the case.

@Geoffrey51 What I was getting at is, as humans, we’ve no more ‘reason for existence’ than any microbe.. beyond replication. Yes, we’ve evolved to nurture our young, but to place ourselves in a realm of the imagination that supposedly cares, tests, or rewards us is ..as far from reality as any religion.

The desire to actually reproduce took it’s time with me. Practice was fun. We are the only creature I’m aware of that can override it’s emotions through our own will. It’s not surprising anyone would look at the condition of the world ..due to humanity, and decide the planet’s not hurting for humans. Personally, it appears mine have become my greatest achievement and contribution to humanity.. Apples of the future ~

0

Wow

bobwjr Level 10 Oct 22, 2019
Write Comment
You can include a link to this post in your posts and comments by including the text q:416933
Agnostic does not evaluate or guarantee the accuracy of any content. Read full disclaimer.