Hadn't thought about that but can't imagine how. Do you think it is regional, generational or ?

@itsmedammit my experience is that terms of endearment is a raised southern thing, that never leaves no matter where you go

@Burner Yes, I can see that.

In a related situation, I was speaking over the phone with a customer service rep for my health insurance. The woman kept saying, "Yes, Ma'am". I wondered whether it was part of her job training, her own method for keeping potentially angry customers at bay, or if it was part of her culture. She sounded like a Southern Black woman, so I settled on cultural.

Although I dislike being addressed so formally without real purpose, in that case it was not worth saying anything, because I did feel it to be more cultural than anything and it would likely be the only interaction I would ever have with that person.

Outside of the annoying aspect I started with, I have a mild interest in linguistics so always think too much about this kind of stuff.

Just because it was the way you were raised doesn't make it any less insulting.

@sewchick57 thsts true if you live your life only thinking of yourself, and have no understanding of other people's intentions. I don't have a absolute value system, and i don't define other peoples actions as a simple "insulting to me" or "not insulting to me". Try it- not being in a frothy rage about other peoples habits, is great.

First name would be fine for me, but yea, as long as it is the case with everyone. It's the use of those terms one uses on a a pet or a child that I do not like.

I cannot find a source but I think I saw an article several years ago that using infantilizing languages was even harmful in some way.

Glad you were able to set them straight!

Geez, the chart is right there! lol

I have noticed this a lot in hospitals and nursing homes. I think it has more to do with infantalizing.

@itsmedammit That is true too. It's a way of taking power away from someone.

You generally call a Dr by their title... They should be asking what you prefer. It's common courtesy and a show of respect.

I like a Dr who asks what you prefer - your title or your first name? It's so simple to make that the first notation in a chart!

Not hitting. It is condescending but at least she is not afraid to use big words with me.

It is new. Probably next visit I will bring it up.

This is a new provider that I am not sure I will stick with. She is an NP and is probably ok other than this habit. Maybe it doesn't feel so condescending for men.