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IS IT possible, even desirable, to have a long-distance relationship, with one partner that travels?

Rondo 4 Nov 21
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Not in my experience.
Your mileage may vary.

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I did it for 9 years. It was good until he was killed in a car crash. We got a good amount of alone time and independence and were glad to see each other when we could.

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I would prefer someone who travels alot if they came home regularly. I crave regular sex and a person to be with and share things once in a while but hate being around someone all the time. It's actually my dream fantacy relationship.

If it was long distance as in living a long ways away not having regular physical contact then I wouldn't even consider it for more than a temporary basis.

MsAl Level 8 Nov 22, 2019
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Sure. My last boyfriend, a medical doctor 11 years younger than me, had a private plane. It took him 40 minutes to fly to Wenatchee where I live.

"Where do you want to go?" he asked. "Let's fly over the Cascade Mountains where I love to hike," I replied. I directed him. It was spectacular!

Well now I want to know why you broke up! That sounds wonderful!

@Freespirit64

A full time medical doctor, Bill also took call for five other doctors. He worked full time plus volunteering at a free clinic. An obsessive bicycle racer (what a body!), Bill rode every day, logging 300 miles/week, even more when training for a competition.

The breaking point came when Bill added a part-time job flying search-and-rescue mission for the county police. "I'm excited about flying their bigger plane," he said.

He had no time for a relationship. To make matters worse...

A Republican, born-again Christian and gun zealot (over 100 guns), his beliefs were the antithesis of mine. Although his Jewish parents survived Auschwitz and had terrible PTSD, Bill wants to ban all immigrants. He is anti-environment protection, anti-abortion, anti-immigrant, pro fossil fuels, wants to stop gay marriages, doesn't want the government to pay for birth control for poor people, a Trump supporter, ad nauseum. We agreed not to talk about religion or politics.

Three times I dumped Bill because of his beliefs. "I miss you," he texted. "It's a beautiful day. I flew to Wenatchee to ride the Apple Capital Trail. If you can meet me at the airport, want a ride?" That was hard to resist. He's an exceptional lover. I bit.

The only thing I miss is flying in his plane.

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I knew a man who retired from the Merchant Marine Service. He would spend 6 months at sea then be on shore for 6 months. He said he and his wife loved it. When he came home from the sea, it was like a honeymoon all over again. And by the end of the 6 months shore duty they were sick of each other and needed a break.
It wouldn't work for everyone, but it did for them.

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I need regular touch and physical contact so it wouldn’t work for me.

I’m sure there are people who it does work though

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Maybe? But is not for me as I'm getting older I prefer to find my life partner near to my area.

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Why not? All types of relationships are out there. Just have to see if it works.

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Personally, I believe in short-distance relationships.

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I had an 8+ year relationship with a guy who would spend about 1-5 months off island or out of state, each year. I came to realize that the trips where he talked by phone pretty much daily, I feel he was true to me, but the trips where he would only text or go weeks at a time without checking in were the trips he cheated on me. His last trip, before we broke up for good, he admitted to having a relationship with another woman for a couple of months while he was out of state. She even took him to the airport. Now he's back home, and I refuse to get back together with him, despite near daily calls and texts, trying to lure me back. Nope! Finally done!

I said all that to say that if you have a great deal of trust and you can keep up your intimacy in other ways while apart, if for long separations, then it could work. But if there are trust issues, I would warn against a LDR. If it's just for short trips, then I wouldn't worry at all. It's mostly a matter of trust and trustworthiness.

If it's just a romance and not a long term relationship, then go for it! Why not?

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IMO the older you both are the more possible, and perhaps the more necessary (I love my space!) because you could each enjoy your established lifestyle & then have sparkly sparks when you meet, and certainly keeping in touch is pretty easy nowadays

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I'd say it depends on each person and their level of independence, need for self-time, and adaptability to change. As for distance relationships in general, I do not consider them to be very viable, one party would have to relocate, which is not all that easy for many people.

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I have done long distance twice. If you accept the fact it probably won't work long term, it might work. I don't believe I would do long distance again. The distance killed both relationships.

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any arrangement that works has to be okay. but daily face-to-face has to be more satisfying

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Possible, for some people desirable, but not for me.

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That’s an odd question with only one answer.
Yes, but are you capable?

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Of course it is...just takes a bit more work.

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Does she swallow?

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You have to be wary of people with motor homes, or RVs, that plan their stops in towns, where they have "friends", who will let them park their RV for the night, to avoid the cost of RV campgrounds. (I had a distant relative like that once) Also, people from other countries, whom you've met on internet 'pen-pal' sites, who like to avoid hotel tabs by 'visiting' their new 'pen-friends'. In other words, they might have 'musical partners' that they 'drop in' on, in order to have a free place to stay.

Reminds me of my dear cousin Eddie

Ummm, I have a tiny RV, seldom if ever pay to park overnite...use CPL's, usually. I have met a few people for coffee along the waym look forward to meeting more. Yes a few have been toads, but it is all fodder for dinner party anecdotes! Generalizations are So nasty.....

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Very much possible, as to desirable, it depends if the relationship is not, clingy? My opinion but have observed, there are people that get along better when they spend more time apart. Some personality types may attract and have connections but there could be some factors of the personalitys that do not get along well when exposed to each other for long time frames.

Word Level 8 Nov 22, 2019
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Hasn’t worked for me.
The last few years of my marriage I was working away from home 20 days, and home for 10.
Most of the time I got a hug when I left and a frown when I returned.

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Depends, where is the person based?

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Someone to come home to YES.....free motel and service NO.....TRAVEL with your lover Yes....separate homes in secret NO

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Varies there are success stories here

bobwjr Level 10 Nov 21, 2019

Worked for me 125 miles apart 14years together

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Are you saying only you or only she would be willing to travel? That you two would only see one another when the 1 party did the travelling? 😕
And yes it is possible.... if it is desirable is entirely up to you. @Rondo

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