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I've heard many times from older men, "I wish I knew 20 years ago what I know now" and as an older woman I would have loved to have the insight that I have now about love and relationships. For you "older adults" (defined as over 55) do you find that younger people want to listen and learn? Or do you find younger people to be dismissive of your experiences and real life insights?

Wildflower 8 Nov 26
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I find, , only on here, occassionally, some fathead (could be male or female) is dismissive because I am "old". They need to hang on to their hats!!!!!!!

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I don't know. I would have liked to know more about investing when I was young, but I think a lot of people of all ages still muddle through the love thing. But about your listen and learn question? I've found the young people I know to be very curious and responsive, and I try to be the same when I ask them questions.

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If someone wants to know something, they will ask. Otherwise they do not hear too much. Their own experiences will tell them much more.

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My sons listen to me and ask for advice; one is recently married, the other finishing up college. I also used to give advice to a woman I worked with and she was happy for it.

That's great.

Since being widowed in 2008, I am finding that most of my friends are younger than I am by about 5-15 years. I treasure these friendships and these friends look to me for my take on what's going on in their lives. Being around them makes me younger physically and mentally, so it's all good.

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Greatly depends on the individual.

Yes of course.

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Young-uns want nothing from us.

Except our money! Lol🤣

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I once heard the saying "Age is not a virtue and youth is not a crime"; I took it to mean that I will never 'know it all' the older I get and I can't look at young people solely through my experiences. Times change, mores change - even faster now with the tech in play now, so my experiences are rarely relatable. I just take solace in the idea that eventually the young'uns will figure it out.

Still scratching my head at how Tinder and 'friends with benefits' makes for a fulfilling social life, but these are not my times!! I grew up post-Woodstock Free Love and when AIDS (then GRIDS) was a guaranteed death sentence, so monogamous Cat is monogamous.

Times do change. I think there is virtue to both age and youth. And we can learn from each other.

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When I tell them about how Mom was a stay at home mom with 4 kids and dad was a simple milk delivery guy they back away. Because I obviously have dementia......sad!

I know, right!

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Most younger people dismiss us as old foggys,,some will listen and some will not ,especially about sex, I think most of them either think we are too old to have sex or just should not be having it for what ever reason,,But they do not releize most of us are still looking at life thru our teen age eyes and get as much or more enjoyment out of sexual relations with another human in what ever way you choose and that most are much more fulling,,We are more into quality than quanity and are much more intentive toour partner making sure they are looked after first and fully satisfied and it is not about ones self and thats where the joy comes from

It's funny that when we're young we just can't fathom old people, especially our parents, enjoying sex. I'm glad I can talk to my daughter openly about my sexuality. We've become good friends. I don't interfere in her life though.

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Younger people are so busy they don't have time to learn from older adults whom they don't trust.

It's sad really.

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It's a bit of both really..

I agree.

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I am against ageISM sexISM theISM zionISM militarISM fascISM scientISM cannibalISM....PLEASE let me know if I left out an evil of our world

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I find both ends of the spectrum. Some want to listen and learn, others dismiss any kind of my experience as out of touch with the times. When one thinks I don't know what I'm talking about I just smile and giggle to myself while contemplating how much their arrogance is going to cost them in the long run.

Yes, I do see both as well. I just think of my younger self and how I would have loved to have had a relationship mentor! Lol

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Nope know it all

bobwjr Level 10 Nov 27, 2019
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Most younger people are too busy living

I agree. Life doesn't slow down till we get older, if at all.

yes that is true life does not slow down till we get older in most cases or is it that we can just see more of it in a different way now

@Wildflower it is work to learn the language and metaphors of youth....our adult children honor us with discussions about great interests but chatting with strangers can be confusing if we try to master more than one language

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