My sister is already helping raise a grandson. This one will be living with her as the daughter has an IQ of barely 60. She (my sister) will be 62 in July, and it looks like she will be raising this one because Rebekah (the daughter) is going to lose interest in the baby quickly. She does that with everything.

At the moment I'm trying to figure out why this angers me so much. Rebekah is not my daughter, so I am not responsible for her or the baby. My sister, though a malignant narcissist, is capable of helping out. Also, by the time the child is born I won't be living in the same town.

@kiramea Maybe you just have compassion.... bringing a child in to such an unstable and toxic envt (I personally know about narcissists) is a shitty thing to do. With modern healthcare allowing for abortions, it would be a mercy "killing" if she were to abort. At least, that is how I view pregnancies of abusive parental units.

@kiramea This is sad. I feel for the child

I found out about this yesterday. I'm still considering my options.

She was pregnant several years ago and spontaneously aborted it. I'm actually hoping that will happen again.

If the daughter is involved in any special medicaid or medicare programs for tge disabled, she may have access to services that can help.

@MarkiusMahamius The problem with that is my sister wants her as dependent as possible on her because she uses the SSI for her cigarettes and pot (among other things). The way I see it, karma is getting back at my sister for not allowing her daughter to get life skills training. My sister also has a saying..... "I don't want to think about it". She also would rather not acknowledge something (in this case a 29 years old child having a sex life), than deal with something that is uncomfortable for her.

As for answering your question, I'm sure they will get pre-natal help, but that's going to be about it.

That's pretty much what I've decided to do. I'm supposed to be over there for Christmas, but I will probably cancel. I do not want to be asked what I think about it because what I'm thinking will not be very nice.

Still debating on whether to call CPS/SSI because like I said earlier she is well versed in manipulation. I will however call animal control because all they have to do is look in the back yard and tell that at least one of her dogs isn't treated well.

I have, and decided against it because my sister can make anyone believe anything. The baby isn't due until July, and I'm planning on selling my house and moving before then (I was planning on doing that before I found this out). Because I fear retaliation from my sister, I have decided (at that time) to report her to the ASPCA for how she treats her dogs, and now to whatever agency that handles this. I am also going to report her to Social Security for abuse of her "representative payee" status on my niece's account. I understand using it for living expenses, but she also uses it to buy cigarettes and pot.

@kiramea I have a sister who behaves in a similar manner, and I certainly understand how you feel. I'm simply asking that you contact a social worker for advice. The dogs are the LEAST in this situation and social security takes FOREVER to do anything. The social worker you speak to doesn't need to talk to her, but to YOU in order to guide you on how to handle this. ... Does your sister have any documented history of instability or financial irresponsibility? If so, have this evidence ready when you talk to a social worker.

@JustAskMe My sister has a history in Texas for multiple charges of hot checks. She also has two bankruptcies, and filed a third time but didn't go through with it. I do not have the dates on any of these, but they are over 10yrs old. She will use the excuse of her husband at the time being a crack-head and sexually abusing the children.

Unfortunately my sister and I live in a small town. The "social service" office here only accepts applications for food stamps/medicaid/etc. Calling the state office is a joke (I've called them on other things).

The entire family is dysfunctional. Her other daughter is married to a physically abusive man and has a young son. Her daughter in Texas is usually in abusive relationships. Like I mentioned above, she was married to a physically and sexually abusive crack addict that was imprisoned for sexually abusing two of his children.

She has been my terrorize since childhood, and want to just get away from her. I truly do not want to get in the middle of this, however I can not turn away when there is a child involved. I'm just afraid that with her ability to manipulate people, I will be the one looking like the fool.

@kiramea I am also in Texas. I will try to find some information for you that may help. If you are willing, will you PM me the name of your town?

@JustAskMe I'm getting ready to visit my daughter and grandson in Wichita, so I will contact you after Christmas. Thanks.

@kiramea I guess this is not an urgent situation.