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Something caught me off-guard this week. It was the middle of be the week, the morning was slow, see we'd chit-chat with the customers. One of our sweet lady customers, in her fifties smiled and asked me point-blank, "Are you a born-again believer"? I told her "sort-of" and proceeded to ask her up she needed any sauces with her meal. A flood of relief came to me when work began to pick up and I didn't have to explain myself. (She probably left the place and prayed for me in her car). I wouldn't fault her for that class though, because a couple years ago I was her and had this ministry mindset that it was my mission to reach the whole world and save them from hell. But I'm just annoyed that religiousity, especially Baptist fundamentalism had become so saturated in the south, and those that don't accept are broken in need of being fixed.

Biblebeltskeptic 6 Jan 24
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There are places in the world that are not as delusional as the part of the planet where you live. Be strong and don't let the crazies get you down.

Yup, but it's a shared illusion by most of our country, and those people are hard to confront...

@Biblebeltskeptic They are difficult to confront the first time but I will share a secret, you don't always have to confront them because they are easily distracted by bright shiny objects and each time you do have to confront them you will find it gets a bit easier. Practice makes perfect but don't tilt at every windmill.

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I hope she left you a monetary tip. You can tell people I'm definitely a believer. They don't have to know what you believe in. Follow up with may the Lord bless and keep you. We all do what we need to do to survive.

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The person who has the worldview that is more nearly aligned with reality is, in my view, the more mature person, regardless of chronological age. So, perhaps unfortunately, it becomes your responsibility to "take directorship" of the conversation, the way you would with a child. That is to say, not let the lesser informed person steer it.

I try to do this by looking for something we can find agreement on, instead of letting our natural instincts draw us into conflict. For instance, asking her what her born-again status means to her in terms of values. If she says it means she values compassion, tolerance, charity, etc. then I can assure her, with a straight face, that we are of the same heart, spiritually.

If she replies that it just means she's going to Heaven, then I might say something like, "Well I'm confident neither of us are going to Hell". You have been truthful, without allowing yourself to be dragged into pointless conflict with someone who is unlikely to be influenced by reason. As the saying goes, you can't reason someone out of a position they were never reasoned into.

Details will vary of course, but this is all to say that A., The truly better informed person is better equipped to direct the conversation, rather than to become a victim of it, and B., there is never any need to become defensive, condescending or rude with a child. No matter their age. You are the adult in the room.

skado Level 9 Jan 24, 2020
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I meet them in my neck of the woods, too. I rarely have to discuss religion … but I do peek at their obituaries.. You are the hope for this nation, persevere 🙂

Varn Level 8 Jan 24, 2020

Will do!

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Don't sweat it girl be strong in your beliefs as well don't let what people think bother you

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