The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few. Or the one.

Sorry kids, I’d save my mate, without a second thought. Ethical dilemmas are for ivory tower philosophers. I have loyalties and commitments and emotional attachments to consider. It wouldn’t become a dilemma for me until my own kids were on that bus.

The goblin's false dilemma does no pose an ethical problem for spider man at all, purely a practical one. No matter what the outcome the ethical element lay squarely on the Goblin as the engineer and enactor of the situation. Whatever Spidey does, including his calculated risk to save all at the risk of losing all he is in the right ethically, and all blame falls on the goblin.

I fucking LOVE spidey. The character does so much good without need for rewards. One of my role models in life xxx

And in this dilema the audience is not let down as he saves both! My hero ♥ So i think I would try to save both also or die trying.

Yes, you can pick both like spiderman
That is kind of the point.

Ethics problems, like save the baby and kill the world or kill the baby and save the world
PICK ONE
are all classic false dilemmas
There are almost always other options, we just fail to see them

I live by Ethics tempered with Empathy
Failure to temper your ethics with empathy will make you a cruel sob, but an ethical one.
Using empathy to temper ethics allows you to be ethical and compassionate.

We like to think we’d opt for the more lives saved option which is more altruistic, less selfish...but it is something which we can’t really know unless we are ever put in that position. What we think we may do is not necessarily what we would in fact do.

By the time I get through considering the utilitarian points and my personal connection, and taking into account whether the life of one person I adore stacks up against the collective lives of strangers who quite likely include some rather unsavory future adults, everyone would have died hours ago. To be fair, though, I'm unlikely to pull off any heroics and save either, no matter how motivated. So, I'd just go take a nap and be sad awhile.

The RIGHT, MORAL, choice is the school bus full of children, of course, but that doesn't mean I'd make that choice.
I'd have to see when the time came.

These moral dilemmas, while interesting, don't usually have a "right" answer, as we don't generally penalize individuals for choosing to save loved ones first.

Well, I've never been in love, but I would probably save the love of my life. They can have more kids.

And Tom Holland is a better Spiderman than Tobey Magwire.