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Can good kissing be taught? Or is it a case of finding a person who likes the way you kiss? That question may sound naive but there seems to be a chemistry about kissing. Point in case, I recently met a man who was a great kisser, but I couldn't really tell you what he did. It just felt right. Unfortunately, we were incompatible by distance and temperament. So, how can an indescribable feeling be taught?

Redbud 5 Apr 1
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I think it's more personal than universal.
I've had a couple women start a First kiss with their mouths wide open. Like a huge double barn door. Like one entire wall of their face was gone, right away. To me that's not good. I'm a guy and I still want to build up to open face mouth mashes.

I guess there was no way to describe that subject more gentler?

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I think people kiss differently based on their mouth shape and size and probably passion. I have a small mouth and I dated a guy that would practically bite my cheeks, his mouth was so big. It was not a good match. The kiss is important to me. Chemistry is different for me, that's more based on how smoothly we communicate. Also, practice makes perfect! Lol!

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Kissing is an art that can be learned with practice. That being said, how one person likes to be kissed may not be what another person likes. One must be able to adapt. I love a good kisser, but good to me is , well, my idea of good!

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I think kissing properly is the most passionate thing you can do so has to be special.

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Don't give it all up at once.. Tease .. Make them work lol.. until you both lose your shit 🙂

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Hello, thinds like kissing cannot be taught. Whatever you do, relax, put your heart and soul into it and be willing to follow someone elses lead if necessary. All will be OK! We can't always like what we are doing. I suppose it also depends on which parts you are kissing ! Good luck.

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I think it is as simple as being at the right place at the right time. Mood, physical attraction, right talk, shared interest, pleasant smells all adding up to a sensual experience. Techniques can be taught. But for the wow, tingling, nipple erecting or hopefully passionate kissing ones to survive the two must be enaged by desire.

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Kissing is a wonderful thing. If you really like it you can get good at it. If you don't care for it you won't. Difficult or not it may get down to communication.

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I think people can learn but everyone has a different ‘capacity’ for it imo.

It’s like conversation - there are different preferences but some people are just better at it than others.

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I went on a date with someone I met on a dating site. We met walking our dogs and hit it off. Decided to drop my dog and car off at my hpuse and jumped in his truck. Went to my favorite Mexican restaurant and had dinner and drinks. He took me home and didn't want to let me out of the truck. Great kisser he said. Chemistry galore. Told me he was making dinner for me that weekend and he had all kinds of plans for the weekend. Said good nite. Come Friday I'm getting ready for the weekend. Fifteen minutes before he was supposed to pick me up hecalled and cancelled. Never saw or heard from him again but he knew how to kiss.

That's really crazy, he could have at least manned up and given you a reason

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Never gave kissing much thought, until you posted! I remembered back when I was married to third husband, his kissing was more like, 'suck fish,' and I never got used to it! I surely didn't want to judge a man by his kissing, but it was odd, at best! Maybe you cannot teach kissing...do we know if the 'caveman/women' kissed?

@Bierbasstard did your telepathic ('hopefully'😉 excerise break down, before it got to it's target? Do we know if the 'caveman/women had developed 'rude' yet?

@Bierbasstard oh! Conditioning! I had not thought of those cartoons since my child hood! Now, I wonder if they were condoning violence back then? You must always be on the look out for subtle messages!

@Bierbasstard maybe not, have you seen what is put there lately? I guess, even the misguided and just plain 'sic' people have to be here, as institutionalized, didn't work so well either! Being the realist, that I am, I like movies for intertainment and I put most of my time on documenories and non-fiction books and anything to help solve life problems!

@Freedompath I am pretty sure that the cave people images are not supported by scientific evidence and obviously imagined by people that depicted the situations in the manner they would most enjoy. BDSM folks of both sexes probably get off on the same scenarios. My comments are not meant to condone or dismiss people of that persuasion.

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I think you have a legitimate point.

I’m not sure if that “chemistry” can be taught.

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Of course! Communication is the key.

YES...on many levels!!

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Some kissers are better than others

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Possibly some things can be taught -- or maybe learned by experience. But I agree with you -- sometimes there's a chemistry that defies explanation. I have the great fortune to have recently found this. Never thought it would happen again!

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Thank you all for the thoughtful comments. I might add, when I was 19 (yes I can remember that far back) I dated an older, more experienced man of 29 and upon our first kiss he 'instructed' me to do nothing, just receive the kiss to get a feel for his preferred style. I always thought that was good advice for a first kiss. Unfortunately, he was a pretty forgettable kisser as we dated four years and I can't remember a single thing about them.

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People are different. Different people enjoy different kisses.
Personally I am not into it, yet apparently am not three bad at it. According to some.
Surely it has a lot to do with who you are kissing as to how you feel about it.
Imagine Donald Trump was the worlds greatest kisser. How would you feel kissing him passionately?

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Can good kissing be taught? I have taught people how to kiss and I must that it is possible. Most of the cases it depends on the two people kissing I bet

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I think it can. But I also think it needs to be gently handled. It's hard to communicate how though.

I messed up a good potential relationship once because I was afraid to tell him his kissing was not what I needed. I still feel badly about that.

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would it be impossible, I think everything can be tought. Kissing has a lot to do with your preference, I think, so you might want to get that man to kiss you again, but record it this time and attention instead of enjoying it, so you can relate what you want from others, in the future. I don't think you can expect something if you don't even know what you want thought

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I think certain things could be taught, but I also think that the passion behind a kiss is what makes it amazing.

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My limited experience with dating,having only been widowed for 7 years has taught me that kisses are always better if people have to wait on them a little while. First kisses should be gentle and tongueless. Two guys greeted me with pushy French kisses on the first date and I was definitely not interested in a second one. Chemistry is much more likely to happen when some anticipation is put in the mix.

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