I did research on gender issues for years, read a pile of gender books on Kindle, read science feed links, visited gender issue forums, etc. To my dismay, at androgyne dating sites, most members seemed perfectly satisfied with being single and only having friends.

I am the same way. I only miss having a companion in that I want a dance and hiking partner, as going alone into remote wilderness areas is dangerous..I was mugged in 2014 while out birding near the beach south of Songkhla, nearly killed, all my camera gear stolen. A tall, muscular companion, like my ex, would have been preferable.

My ex, although he much later came out as nonbinary female, was a wonderful, fun companion. I keep wishing I could have my cake and eat it too..I could be with an intelligent, fit, fun person who is able to sustain a relationship. That would include me, since I'm as picky and difficult as the others.

I'll just shoot my opinion in here and you may not like it but here goes. I have studied neuroscience professionally and I don't really believe in IQ scores. It doesn't measure a lot of intelligence people may have such as linguistic, artistic, and knowledge that is picked up outside of a standard classroom upbringing. Therefore, it is biased towards those who are good traditional students. There is nothing wrong with being a good traditional student as I am but I just choose to be aware of the bias. You probably completely don't agree and I understand that but what I just shared is my opinion on the topic.

Second, I think you can be an entirely normal woman and be into manly things. I got my motorcycle license and rode a sportbike for a while, I did trail races where I regularly beat men who in other contests would beat me hands down and I am in the sciences which is a low woman representation field. I don't think that makes me Androgynous or have any incling towards actually being a man. I live freely and luckily in my country of origin can practice any sport, liesure, or profession that I want be they male or female dominated. When I choose to begin a relationship with a man I share my activities as normal and express that it's who I am.

A potential partner can choose to accept who I am or not but it doesn't necessarily say anything about my gender or gender preferences. It says that I am an individual who does not live in a traditional box. I can wear a beautiful dress to dinner and later suit up and ride a motorcycle or wear a men's style suit and later bathe in a feminine bikini. It's just about being a person and living the life you choose. If a man doesn't accept who I am and wants a woman who lives in a box that's fine. There are many men in this world who love a woman who isn't afraid to live outside a gender role box and encourage them to do so as well.