It is said that the way to a mans heart is to keep his stomach full and his balls empty. Is the statement accurate ? Men and women are welcome to reply.
The Mosuo culture of China is matriarchial. Men and women do not live together, even if they have a long term relationship. Both men and women typically live with mother's extended family. Men may visit their sweetheart at night, if she allows him. In this culture, the women may do what they like with a man. Her extended family helps with her children, and he helps with his nieces and nephews.
The first time I got married I married a boy. Within the first year I realized my mistake and the second time I married a man. Huge difference. If I had wanted to be a mom I would have started from scratch not adopted by marriage. Everyman should be able to take care of himself, cook clean, pay bills and raise children equally. I'm not into spoiling people or being spoiled.
I know that's not very traditional. I'm very independent and love it when my partner is the same.
As a dude, I have to eat almost every day. I have been on a nearly 10 year sabbatical from sex. So I feel the first part of the statement is true. Cooking together with a woman can be fun and lead to some spontaneous sexy times, but. If that happens and you have been slicing Habenero Peppers wash your hands thoroughly before any kind of foreplay!! The dash to the shower you might win. But a really really Hot woman will push you out of the way to get in.
Not for me. Or rather, I should say.. while they are things that make me happy... they are not what I value above all else. For me, it's what I call "sparkiness"... seeing the world in a way that I hadn't seen before, an energetic enthusiasm for life, an intelligent and unique sense of humor... general ebullience paired with interest in others. That's what draws my ardor.
I know a way out of my heart is some static expectations. Any dude I was with would have the same distaste for it. I need more random than expected to be in the kitchen or performing in some other way all the time. I need a guy that would find that dynamic only boring AF as well.