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Is someone truly openminded if they block those with differing perspectives, without even having a conversation with them?

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NotConvinced 7 Apr 20

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Personally I have been /continue to hear the "other side" of my views constantly. I refuse to waste any more of my time or attention on that idiocy than I must. No one owes you attention or to "have your say". Especially when it's the same poorly thought out drivel every other idiot spouts.

religious people are classic examples of people with the same stupid look in the bible bullshit. I got better things to do.

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The answer to your question is both yes and no.

I’ve had to block someone on here because they didn’t like my opinion and felt the need to insult me and make assumptions about me. And even when I tastefully said I disagree but do not wish to argue the point, and wishing them a pleasant day, they had to state something else rudely.

However, someone else disagreed with what I said and I had a thoughtful conversation with that person and listened to their point. While I still disagreed with them, and they disagreed with me, it was a pleasant conversation.

So, to sum it up, keeping an open mind isn’t an invitation for people to be jerks. We aren’t here long enough to willingly let people be rude. Block those that aren’t being constructive in your life.

I've had the same experience and some people are just rude because they are miserable people seeking attention.

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It could be that the opposing view has already been analyzed and rejected. Blocking distasteful, erroneous, or harmful views doesn't necessarily mean that you are close-minded. Sometimes you have to do it for your own mental health, and sometimes it saves energy to not have to deal with the same issue over and over once it's been decided already.

Take Naziism, for example. I don't have to listen to a Nazi's side of the argument to know that they are wrong. It's a waste of time, effort, and sanity. It also gives them a platform to present their ideas when other people might be listening to the conversation and be influenced. Sometimes it's good to be closed-minded to bad ideas.

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You can only listen to a guy that has no idea what he’s talking about for so long. Block that d d

@NotConvinced Oh yeah, it was like talking to a backed up toilet.

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I think you can be open minded and still reject certain ideas/notions without having a conversation about them with someone. For example, I have an acquaintance who is very anti facts--he thinks everything is a conspiracy theory and is very misguided in believing that he's the only one that knows the truth about anything. I refuse to have conversations with him about his ideas because I don't want to elevate the random spewings of his mind to the level of fact.
I'm open to change--provided you have facts and evidence to back your claim, but not accepting someone's ramblings as truth is hardly being close minded.

Mea Level 7 Apr 20, 2018

@NotConvinced yes, an initial conversation (if you can even call it that), but I don't indulge him.

@NotConvinced, not for his opinion on irrelevant things--be his views contrary to science (something I hold in high esteem and quite dear). However, if he were to start spewing hate, I wouldn't hesitate to remove an association between us. I don't want to be linked to bad characters.

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maybe I am or maybe I'm not. I just can't be arsed with bullshit anymore. life kicks you in the nuts enough already without dickheads fucking arguing, especially about fairy tales. I really would be happy if I never argued or spoke about fucking religious bullshit ever again.

your welcome and I will thanks

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You must be able to defend your position and that takes listening to theirs.

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Some people, I just cannot abide to listen to. Racists, sexists, hate mongers

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I intentionally seek exposure to differing perspectives for the purpose of honing my own, polishing my objectivity, and developing humility and compassion.

Engagement is a different story. I try very hard not to prejudge anyone, for any reason. I do not think it's prejudgment, however, to say that among most people--of any viewpoint--there exists a relationship of inverse proportionality between the strength with which a view is held and the willingness to fairly and objectively evaluate an opposing view --as if entertaining opposing viewpoints somehow threatens your own.

I don't go looking for this phenomenon here or there; I just realize it's endemic to people in general. So in the presence of those with whom I disagree--particularly in a curated environment like a forum, class, club, church, etc.--I generally hold my tongue until and unless I see someone outwardly demonstrate very obvious signs that they are secure in their own thinking enough to not be threatened by dissenting views and enjoy and value engaging with the same. In other words, someone like me.

It's exceedingly rare. I don't hold my breath. But occasionally the planets align and I find someone like me who is not identified with their views and enjoys the exquisite mental exercise of entertaining an idea without accepting it.

Finding these needles in such a prickly haystack is neither easy nor pleasant--but its totally worth it.

My exact answer though said better.

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That depends. I've been forced to block many already that are part of a certain movement, and you know which one I'm referring to. Those folks are not open minded, so I see no sense in interacting with them.

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It's good to block people who engage in ad-hominem attacks. It is definitely better than participating in an online flame war.

@Crimson67 by default all posts are unfollowed. Or am I missing something?

@Crimson67 I think I understand... we have a crude "send me alerts or not" of comments to posts or replies to comments I make... but not a way to turn it off for an individual post or comment, right? It might be doable to let you select "I want alerts but not from THIS specific comment" but I don't know how many will want to do that.

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As far as I am aware I have been blocked by three people that I have only had pleasant exchanges with. A few I have never engaged with. One for calling out a logical fallacy. The last one was justified, I was trolling him. However, I feel like he deserved it.

The people who blocked me most likely did so because they didn't like what I had to say about their ideology. I don't think anyone can claim to be open-minded from an echo-chamber.

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It is still possible that they're open-minded. It's not like every idea is equally good anyway, and I don't like this mentality of "you will listen to me, or you're something bad". It encourages people to stupidly listen to every idea.

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I have never blocked a person over ideology or conversation. The idea doesn't even go through my head. Disagreements are growth. I have been blocked, I am sure. Though, I have never noticed...haha...Sometimes you have to dig for someone to get to what they are really trying to say. And a lot of people hate that.

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When someone starts spouting Woo-Woo science, God, a conspiracy theory, Bermuda Triangle, Loch Ness Monster, Big Foot and other cryptozoology nonsense.

@NotConvinced Those things are not real, I have no desire to converse with anyone who believes they are.

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I've never blocked a person. I value all perspectives especially coming from an angle I may have not considered or previously rejected.

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Trolls are a waste of time. The occasional bit of wisdom is completely overwhelmed by the disruptive aspects of trolling.

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I block religious people who post hate memes and religious themes. On this website, if someone keeps attacking me, saying "fake news!" with everything I say, I only reply a couple of times before blocking them.

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I have blocked only one person, and it was because we have had a few conversations. I've been blocked by a handful of people and only one sent me a nasty msg first. The others just blocked me. I don't guess it really matters.

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Depends. Sometimes if the perspective is so skewed, antithetical to what you think or hostile, sometimes it's not worth a dialogue. Fairplay doesn't require abuse!

@NotConvinced sometimes you can tell from posts or comments already made without having been a party to them. I, personally, don't block anyone, but I ignore a number.

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No vote, I could be open minded and yet not available to waste my time.

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