My long time religious friend died late Friday afternoon after having a sudden stroke. His name was Willie and he was about my age. We met and became friends around the age of 12 or 13. Later we attended the same types of Evangelical churches and he never could understand how my studies for the ministry helped turn me atheist. Bible study will do that if you have an open mind.
My daughters both agree that I should go to the visitation. I will do that but cannot stay for the funeral because I do not want to hear "he is in a better place now." I would be tempted to speak up and say that it is not true. He will be missed, but he is simply dead. I don't know how else to put it. His memory stopped when he died. He has returned to wherever he came from before he was born. He exists now in the minds of the living survivors who knew him. He will be missed.
You are right to not want to hear it... Regardless what people believe, the funeral is not the place to confront them. So what if they want to believe he is going to a better place? It makes them feel better about the loss. Isnt that what all religions do? Gives people something to look forward to? Doesn't really matter if its true.