Struggling with health and.....well brothers.
My dad was in a near fatal accident 6 hours away from where I live. I can travel but I have to balance it with rest. My family is so judgmental. They are toxic for me to be around.
I lost my mom last year within days of this accident. I love my dad but I feel like I lost part of him when I lost my mom.
In reality, I would not have survived this life past the age of 13 if it wasn’t for him.
It’s not easy but I have learned that I can’t give away something that I don’t have. If I don’t have well being within myself how can I contribute to the well being of another. So without guilt, I will invest in my own well being. I will do what I can but not at the expense of my own physical, emotional, and mental wellness.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Geez, I hope your health is not suffering that much...
SpikeTalon
Level 9
May 7, 2018
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Thank all of you for your input, and support.
My dad passed this morning. He had a bad heart and his injuries were too severe at his age for him to survive the pneumonia caused by all of his broken ribs.
Time for me to take care of me.
My hope for this to bring the remaining members of my family closer exists. Time will tell.
Cbabcoco
Level 6
Apr 25, 2018
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My condolences on your loss. I hope things eventually fall into place for you, take care.
Sounds like you have the right idea, and know what's best for you.
SpikeTalon
Level 9
Apr 23, 2018
1
Finding your own way to honor him WITHOUT exposing yourself to toxic family members is totally ok. If you think you can have closure without going, then don't. Going doesn't even always guarantee closure. I hope you can find a way to deal with this that is not detrimental to your well being. I wish you all the luck.
LilIrishRose
Level 6
Apr 23, 2018
2
I think they are just emotionally distraught about your father and are using you as an escape. Take nothing to heart. Be there when you can. I understand travel with health problems. It's exhausting and painful. Do what you need to, and eventually they'll understand and if not, that's their problem.
LadyAlyxandrea
Level 8
Apr 23, 2018
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You have nothing to feel bad about. We as humans have limitations. Exceeding those limitations while trying to address a problem only adds to the problem. Take care of yourself first, then contribute what you can . If others cannot accept your limitations, it is their shortcoming, not yours.I wish you the best in dealing with this tough situation.
nvrnuff
Level 8
Apr 23, 2018
1
Causing an accident by being tired while driving kills you and others... get some rest.
BucketlistBob
Level 8
Apr 23, 2018
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Do what's right for you, and leave the others to their judgments. You can't control what anyone else is going to do. Toxic people are to be avoided, regardless of their relationship.
Besides, it takes a lot more than shared DNA to qualify as "family".
Family are the people who know you best, love you anyway, and always want the best for you.
That doesn't necessarily include blood-relations.
KKGator
Level 9
Apr 23, 2018
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I find it important to do what is best for you. I hope you are not being made to feel guilty for not visiting more often!
Jellifish1
Level 5
Apr 23, 2018
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