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Would you date a person with a disability?
i.e. missing limbs, a stoma, or any of the invisible disabilities..

Ostopal 6 Apr 23
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Depends on the disability, only because I am disabled and I do not have the ability to be a caregiver when I need one myself. It isn't that they have a disability, it's that I know a person with a disability needs a certain kind of support that I would not be able to provide and it wouldn't be fair to either of us. If I were healthy myself, physically and mentally, I'd be more than happy to take it on. However I am already a caregiver for my mentally disabled brother and I'm not even getting my own needs met.

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Absolutely. Inclusive of financial difficulties too. I once met and dated a woman that had only been off the streets about a month. She had a few underlying health and mental conditions but I don't feel they hindered us in any way, if anything gave us things to work on as a team. She was perhaps the best person I had the pleasure of dating. The only reason we didn't work out was my dumbass went back to my ex that I hadn't completely gotten over at that time.

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Everyone has either invisible disabilities or visible ones, often both. No one leaves life unscathed.

7

I def would date them

6

I can't say all because there is a huge range of disabilities, but hidden or easily identifiable disabilities wouldn't necessarily preclude me from dating someone. We all have baggage of some sort.

5

I have an invisible disability, so my yes answer would be a little dependent on the other person's disability. Can we make a relationship work around the disabilities?

5

Yes partially because I am a person with a disability myself

4

Yes. I happen to have an invisible disability, myself. Our disabilities and illnesses don't define us.

Deb57 Level 8 Apr 23, 2018
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I am more concerned about mental /emotional /behavioral dysfunction --and I don't think anyone is immune from at least one of those. Codependency, delusion, dishonesty, obsession, egomania, narcissism, bigotry, dogmatism, etc. Most of these things are familial; some are generational or cultural.

I know you can't find a single person completely untouched by such issues...

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If you aren't open to that, then what happens when your spouse is suddently disabled? Or you?

They'll sign up to a dating site,

My 2nd husband left me for another woman a year after I was diagnosed with late-onset Friedreich's Ataxia. I recently rediscovered his profile on Facebook: he's now an evangelical Christian, Republican, racist, misogynist. I'm better off without him, I realize now, but the blow to my then fragile self-esteem was horrible at the time. It took me years to get my head above water psychologically. I'm stronger now, but I'm now on SSI (my invisible disabilities that existed since birth (Autistic Spectrum Disorder) already made it very hard to find work before that, so I was a stay-at-home wife and mother) and live in subsidized housing for the elderly and mobility impaired. I want a better life than this, I want another S.O, but I'm not willing to have a relationship for the sake of lifting me out of poverty, it has to be someone who loves me for me and doesn't give a damn about my disabilities.

Honestly, I really wish that people would take their vows to heart when they marry. There's a reason for "Richer or poorer, in sickness and in health." These things are stresses on any relationship, and you have to love someone enough to work through it when the hard times hit.

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Having a stoma is not a disability lol. I have one and can still run, walk, dance, be intimate, play with grandchildren, walk my dog, mow my lawn and so on. And while my answer is "yes I would" having a stoma shouldn't be in the same sentence as missing a limb lol.

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Depends on how well I get along with the person and whether or not they allow the disability to define them. Dated a person with severe depression, anxiety, and a recovering anorexic, ruined everything by getting sick/panicky/sad. I’m not miserable, I don’t need that kind of company.

2

If the person was a good, honorable person, that I clicked and he clicked with me, sure. I don't worry too much about things like that. It doesn't help to be a perfect physical specimen, if you are an ass hole.

2

I dated a girl in wheel chair part of the time, was a non issue. I had to learn to keep up.

1

I would say it depends. I'm more attracted to a person's mind and if they are a good person. I don't believe I could date someone with severe mental issues wether it was psychological or not. As for physical problems as long as a person can take care of themselves mostly I'm good. I just spent 3 years looking after my dad and his physical health declined quickly. He passed away a year ago I don't think I could look after anyone like that right now.

1

Hmmm... I don't know. Love is blind.

1

Depends on what it is. Having a narcoleptic for a caregiver simply isn't safe, so I don't think I'd get into any kind of serious relationship with anyone who would have to rely on me for that.

As to invisible disabilities and mental health issues, i tread carefully around that, too. Nobody is 100 percent healthy, but I don't think it'd be a good idea to get into a serious relationship with someone whose disability would lock onto mine--or mine onto theirs--and drag us both down.

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Have many times, still do. It is non issue.

1

I dated a man who had a stutter. We were in a relationship for about a year.

0

I have never been attracted to someone with a physical disability that I know of.

KenG Level 6 Apr 24, 2018
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Are you asking sugar ? ??

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I am disabled but yes I would.

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