I was today dumbfounded to learn that my wife of 47 years took an interest in what other women wear in the way of bras and knickers underneath their blouses, skirts and dresses. If any woman reading this can explain to me why any woman would take such an interest I would be extremely grateful. By way of background, my wife is 100% heterosexual and has low libido.
Thanks in advance.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I agree you should just ask her... But from a female perspective, my thoughts are it could be that she is thinking of making a change to her own selection of underthings.
Could be that her lingerie doesn't fit her body the same as it did in past years as body weight gets redistributed differently and as styles change between less coverage and more coverage, or modesty desires change from less padded to more padding, etc. Outerwear styles sometimes show panty lines or bra straps showing, so a change in the underwear is sometimes necessary to stay stylish. 
Perhaps she has a new outfit and needs different underwear to show it off in the most flattering way.
You mention sexual preference and libido, which may not have anything to do with her interest in what other women are wearing under their clothes, but then again it could be that she is wondering if wearing more alluring underwear might help ignite a stronger libido with self attractiveness.
I used to have quite a nice selection of sexy underwear when I was intimately active, but now that I've put that part of my life on hold, I'm more interested in comfort and no show underwear, so that nothing shows through to the outside of my clothes, where as in the past a little peek might have seemed inviting trouble.
Julie808
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Mar 12, 2022
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Thank you for that. Sexy clothes, and that includes underwear, has never been a thing for my wife.
Maybe your wife has had low libido UNTIL she discovered her interest in what other women wear beneath their clothes. If you support her interest, it may come back to benefit you sexually.
BitFlipper
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Mar 12, 2022
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Thanks. We have talked about her libido and how it has changed over the last 50 years with our psychologist. I guess it's a wait-and-see game now.
Interesting question. What is the state of your underthings? Is she expected to wash them? Could be that she just wants to pretty up the laundry.
Deb57
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Mar 12, 2022
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She has never taken any interest in doing the washing (or the washing up for that matter). Her underwear is purely functional.
She took an interest or she takes an interest? How did you find out? Are you comfortable discussing it with her?
LovinLarge
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Mar 12, 2022
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We were talking about how hot and oppressive the weather been these last months, and my wife mentioned the woman's underwear in passing. I would like to raise it with her if I can figure how to do so without triggering any of her demons.
@anglophone Respectfully, and without the benefit of any nuance to what she said, are you reading something into her comment? I have no interest in other womens' underclothes but the media keeps me informed of the evolution of everyone's underclothes whether I like it or not. Wish I could help you figure this one out.
@LovinLarge Thank you for your care and support. I was surprised that she even bothered to notice, and as far as I could tell it was no big deal for her. She prefers to be without a bra, and may have been faintly surprised that the woman in question was also without a bra. My wife won't wear a bra at home, and we were visiting the other woman and her husband at their place.
@anglophone It's hard to get the real picture from this end. I hope you will find the right opportunity to raise the subject with her. Perhaps just recalling the events of that visit, including the part you really want to discuss, would be harmless enough. You are the best judge of that. If you don't mind me saying so, I would let her be the one to turn the conversation sexual, if that's where it goes because that incident may well not be sexual in nature to her at all. Anyway, you know I wish you well.
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