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Do birthdays make any sense if you are an Atheist?
I grew up without birthdays because my mother was a member of the JW cult, so they are not a part of my childhood. I didn't celebrate my birthday until I was 18 and that was a horror show because my then girlfriend invited all of my friends, unfortunately these were friends that I compartmentalized because they were so different. Imagine a room filled with Bikers, Artsies, Punkers, Nerds, Jocks and Intelligencia.
Personally, I mark the date as my own personal year and I reflect upon how I have advanced or regressed over that year. How do you view your Birthday?

Surfpirate 9 Apr 26
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Why wouldn't they make sense?

Mea Level 7 Apr 26, 2018

Probably because birthdays and name days are religious in nature and I'm not religious.
I mark the time as my own personal year but not anymore than that, perhaps it would mean more if I had a deep rooting in the idea from childhood but I just don't have that personal history.

@Surfpirate Horsefeathers! Why are birthdays religious?

@GoldenDoll Horsefeathers?? Thanks for posting that, a nice birthday present for me. Birthdays and Namedays are religious and always have been, the same as saints days and days honouring the gods. Where did you think they came from?

@Surfpirate, perhaps they do have some arguably religious undertones, but why shouldn't we enjoy celebrations and holidays? The religious enjoy advants like modern medicine and technology.

@Surfpirate Mine came from my parents, who were not religious. Cycle broken.

@Mea I'm off to my favourite Sushi restaurant shortly and my wife and I will go to see a play after that. I'm not against celebrating the beginning of my own personal year, I just don't want all the religious trappings that are attached to it. My issues isn't with the event but the ritual and the religious connection that goes with it. Wishing you a happy birthday in advance. Cheers

@Surfpirate - where do you think names came from? Really? So people didn't have names before religions?

@GoldenDoll Names have meanings, mine means king or ruler, doesn't mean I am one. Name days are just a variation on birth days. Enjoy yours.

@Surfpirate, I'm honestly not under the impression that most people who celebrate their birthday associate it with its religious origins. You should enjoy the day if it makes you happy, it doesn't make you any more or less of an atheist. 🙂

@Mea I did enjoy my day, the sushi was amazing, I connected with friends on several continents and even though the play we went to was amateur it was still fun. Same time next year and no cake or candles then either. 🙂

@Surfpirate I think your comments emphasise how much damage the indoctrination of children into religious practices can do, and how hard it is to free yourself from them. One day you'll maybe be able to see why you think the way you do about a harmless "ritual". I wish you well in your recovery.

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Birthdays are not a religious occasion, so whether you are an atheist or not is pretty much irrelevant.

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If birthdays are stupid then all types of anniversary dares are equally stupid.

Personally I think anniversary dates of all kids, including birthdays, help us appreciate each other more.

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One of the religions I studied/read about/participated in was LaVeyan Satanism, basically atheism with rituals. One of the most important "holy days" for them is the person's birthday, because it marks the time their universe was created.

Personally, I try to do a little something special on my birthday since I have survived another year.

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I don't see how birthdays have any religious meaning.

I see it as a day to celebrate your birth. They're less important if they're mine, but the people I love I want to celebrate their birth because I'm so glad they were born and came into my life. It's a way of saying "I'm glad you're alive, I appreciate your birth"

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Your birth date is dependent upon which religious calendar you're looking at.

I never thought about it like that but very true.

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I was born. Which was a billion to one chance. So I have a birthday. And I celebrate that fact.

A billion to one? There are millions of sperm in each ejaculation and humans spend their lives humping like bunnies so it was a pretty much a given that you would be born or someone just like you. I think we over emphasize our importance but I don't have an issue with celebrating our existence. All I am say is that the ritual is religious in nature and that is a bit silly for an atheist. Besides, it's my birthday today so I get to say what I want. lol 😉

@Surfpirate Its not religious!

@Surfpirate You seem to forget there is only one egg. Maybe two. I think men sometimes overestimate their importance.

@GoldenDoll Not at all, 3 years studying life sciences makes me well aware of how many ovum are in play but that's only half of the equation and there are millions on the other side, don't overestimate the female part.

@Surfpirate "the ritual is religious in nature"

How so? I'm not sure of the religious nature of eating cake and having parties. What makes the ritual so religious?

@Kuildeous - Exactly.

@Kuildeous, @Surfpirate - It's ovi.

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Birthdays are simply that. milestones in your journey called life

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On another note, if I recall correctly (I may incorrect) while taking a religion class in college a few years ago that the Catholic Church had banned the practice of celebrating birthdays for a time because the reigning pope was adamantly against birthday celebrations for it having been related to Paganism.

That's a fact and some of the Protestant sects were against Birthdays for the same pagan religious roots of the celebration, going back to Artemis for the Greeks and the Romans and Egyptians had a similar religious connection with Birthdays as well. Everything comes from somewhere, there is nothing new under the sun just variations on a theme.

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My birthday is on New Years Eve so there was always something going on (my parents had New Years Eve Parties, or my dad would have a gig to play with him being a musician) People usually had no idea it was my birthday and it was fine.
The only time it really bothered me was as a kid with it being so soon after Christmas I got the two for one gift deal.

Once I hit 30 I stopped counting and just treat it as any other day.

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I like my birthday - I usually go out and play air hockey and bowling - there isn't a lot to do in Northern Ireland except see a lot of scenery and go for long walks - I can't quite see that there is anyhting at all religious about my birthday. Its just a day and only an excuse to lively up a bit

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I don't see how celebrating birthdays has anything to do with religion. It's very secular.

So I am told by many people and that's all I have to say about that. If you want to do a google search on birthdays and religion then that's your business.

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In my life, a birthday comes along and justifies how and why my body aches, my head hurts, my memory shrinks and muscles change in that I grow boobs..thats about it...

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Wtf does religion have to do with managing to survive one more year?

Unless it's Christmas, we're not celebrating anything but that.

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No worries birthdays were frowned upon initially by christians for being a pagan tradition.
[en.wikipedia.org]

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Also no holidays began as Christian holidays. Christmas was originally yule, which was just a celebration of the solstice. I'm all for celebrating because we survived another season. I celebrate Christmas without christ. I celebrate easter because it welcomes spring, not because I believe in the resurrection. I celebrate Halloween not because I believe demons will possess the living but because I really love scary things and free candy lol

Just because we celebrate something doesn't mean we are hypocritical. We celebrate because we like to celebrate. Boycotting all fun because of people of faith stealing the celebrations and slapping a Jesus sticker on them, well that's no better than Jehovahs Witnesses.

Well said. Religion is designed to make you feel guilty and insecure, and to get rid of all fun. I celebrate everything!

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Birthdays are simply a celebration of the anniversary of your birth. While some may make it a religious affair, there's nothing inherently religious about it.

Interestingly enough, I believe it's the only holiday the Church of Satan recognizes. After all, what is more important to you than your own birth?

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Birthdays are the culmination of a year in the life of You. I believe they are extremely important. I never understood how this day could not be something to celebrate.

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So what have I learned from all this hulla balloo about Birthdays? Well I can tell that they are very near and dear to people's hearts and whether or not they are religion based (check out birthdays and the ancient greeks, romans and egyptians if you are curious) it just doesn't matter because whether or not you are an atheist or not, most people are not about to give up their birthday. Wild horses won't stop people celebrating this most personal of days, old religious connections be damned because if you grew up with birthdays they probably hold a special place in your heart and that's why people will not accept any reason for why they shouldn't celebrate their birthday. Heck, I didn't grow up with birthdays or easter or xmas, etc. and I still like birthdays a bit, enough to go along with it for the sake of my wife who loves birthdays. Now Halloween is another story altogether, don't even try to mess with that awesome night of tricks and treats. 3🙂

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It tickles me when people forget my birthday, which is quite close to Christmas, in which they're all wrapped up in. My mom will probably call me.

I'm gonna set my age back this year. Not sure where to, but I'm changing that fkn number. ?

Hey, why not just change your birthday to sometime in August and tell everyone you're 47 years old? It's all good and you could pull it off, tweak the wardrobe with some age inappropriate stuff and maybe a shot of botox just to confuse everyone even further; have some fun with it but don't tell your mom cause she's still going to be calling you in December. 😉

@Surfpirate I like the way you think.

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Yeah I get money and presents

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What could possibly be religious about celebrating? Any reason for a gathering of folks you like to be with is a good one, and a birthday is just as good as anything else. Someone else wrote that it depends upon which calendar you follow, and that is deep: choose a day or a week or a month or however long you want and enjoy that you are alive!

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I view it as a happy time of my life I'm sorry about how you grew up. When I was younger, I considered becoming a mormen. Which is another religious cult. I'm so glad I didn't go through with it.

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I've had too many birthdays. 50 of them. I still like them, but I'm in changed circumstances now and fewer people to share them with. I'll see what 51 looks like.

51 puts you on the edge of the curve that may lead to medical technology extending your life 3 fold. Exciting times.

@Surfpirate We'll see about that, but here's hoping 🙂

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Well I'm off to dinner and a show. May all of you mark your own personal year in the best way you see fit. I will not be having cake with candles myself as I never understood the point, although I did go through the motions for my children at the behest of my born again christian ex-wife just to keep the peace. The devil is in the details. 😀

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I love birthdays. Not sure what that has to do with religion.

For years I threw parties all the time where all my different compartmentalized friends came together. It was always a blast and everyone enjoyed themselves.

Yup. I,agree: a day to celebrate is always appropriate. This has nothing at all to do with religion and everything to do with a reason to have a party, big or small.

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