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Re-posted at the request of several. Apparently, I committed a Faux-Pax by simply referring to a FB Link.

I’ve casually looked through this topic content and I’m kind of, well, APPALLED, at what I’m seeing posted by men. Guys! This is not a new endeavor! Dating! Attracting the fairer sex! What’s going on here????!!!! As an “Elder” I might suggest you fellows review this:
Copied from “The Art of Manliness”
The Top 8 First Date Ideas
There are essentially two categories of first dates.
There are first dates with people you’ve never seen in the flesh, nor probably talked to on the phone — those you met through an online dating service. The best first date for this scenario is the coffee date, which is something of a cliché, but for good reason: accordion-like in nature, you can cut things short after a 20-minute chat if the person’s looks or personality don’t match what you expected from their profile, or, if things go well, you can extend the date, and ask her if she’d like to accompany you on a second activity — perhaps checking out a local street fair or farmer’s market.
Then there are first dates with someone you’ve already met in person and chatted with a bit. Maybe a classmate, or a barista at a coffee shop you frequent, or a gal you talk with in passing at church. It could even be a long-time friend, who’s previously been nothing more than that. You know them a little (or a lot), but you’ve never gone on an actual date (defined by the 3 P’s: Planned ahead, Paired off, Paid for) with them. In this situation, in which you feel more confident in your chances with the person, and are eager to spend more time with them in a new context, you can opt for a first date that involves a little more commitment.
It’s that category of first dates that the list below is focused on.
A dynamite date in this category includes 5 elements:
◾Affordable. Spending a lot signals a big commitment and high expectations, which can actually be off-putting to your date. Keeping things more affordable and casual not only sets the right vibe for her, but benefits you too; if the date doesn’t go as planned, you’re not out a big nut with nothing to show for it. Plus, it enables you to keep first dates more frequent, which, before you find your main squeeze, they should be.
◾The chance to converse freely. No movie dates — or concerts, plays, or comedy shows for that matter, no super loud restaurants or bars, and actually, no bowling either — it seems like a good idea, but either you’re up to bowl or she is, and it’s very difficult to get a cohesive conversation going. The whole point of the date is to get to know each other better, and you can’t do that if you’re not able to talk, or can talk, but can’t hear each other.
◾Ample face-to-face time. Men prefer socializing side-by-side, but women prefer to do it face-to-face; plus, ample eye contact plays a huge role in building attraction. So don’t do an activity that’s largely side-by-side in nature (ice skating, kayaking) or where you even end up one behind the other (hiking or biking on a narrow trail).
◾Novelty. Don’t just do something you do on a normal basis anyway (e.g., go to a bar). A novel activity sets the butterflies aflutter.
◾A backdrop that provides easy conversation fodder. There will be nary an awkward silence when there are plenty of things going on around you to comment on and talk about.
There are plenty of lists out there that will give you 30 or 50 “best” first dates — but these actually consist largely of ideas that would make for awesome second, third, or fourth dates. Using the criteria above for the very best first date, you can narrow things down significantly. The 8 date ideas below are those which will set up the best possible chances for having a good, spark-catalyzing time.
Museum
You’ll never run out of interesting things to say as you tour through a museum’s exhibits, and the backdrop can elevate your conversation above the usual first date banalities. Plus, a nice art museum just feels dang classy.
Mini Golf
Playing putt-putt has an almost cliché, overly wholesome feel to it, but that can actually work in your favor — it shows you don’t take things too seriously, which is an attractive trait. You’ll have plenty of laughs over the course of 18 holes, and afterwards you can move on and treat her to — what else? — a couple of ice cream cones.
Trivia Night
Drinks and trivia are both good inhibition looseners, and you’ll likely be in for a night of laughs and fun. Plus, the element of competition adds a bit of emotional charge.
Pottery Painting
There are places that offer pre-made ceramic pieces that you simply select and paint. It’s surprisingly fun and soothing to do something creative together, and this is a good date if she’s more of a mellow, introverted type.
To Be Continued!

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bigpawbullets 9 Apr 27
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As a guy who was ditched by he love of his life in favour of a guy who in her words, oozed testosterone I have a different view.
This guy lied, cheated on her continually, had an ego as big as the great outdoors, drinks excessively, couldn't hold a job and led her into bankruptcy. He was pretty much like both her ex husbands. Womens wants/needs in men are at least as varied as guys personalities. There is no one size fits all.
Have to ask, concept of "elder".

Ha.
"Elder".... At 68 years old I've reluctantly assumed the role of "Patriarch" for my extended family. But, in the context above.... it was a "tongue-in-cheek" reference to my age only.

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As a women this looked like proper advice/suggestions on first dates.

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Whispers "You doubled your last paragraph".

I plead.....
The beer is for the shoulder pain after yardwork.

@bigpawbullets Very understandable....

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Sarcasm, right?

Well, not really.
Maybe.
What's the "problemo" with meeting ladies?

@bigpawbullets absolutely nothing as long as I don't have to change who I am. I yam who I yam.

Exactly @Rudy1962 !!!
Us Manly Men are comfortable in our own skin.
This is one of the core requirements for social interaction.

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