Time to move on, face your reality. Never the love of one person is enough for the two of you.

I would recommend finding a good counselor to talk to. That can be hard to do, but well worth it. Just an objective third party to bounce my feelings off was helpful. I'm incredibly sentimental and still in love with every woman I ever loved - whether it was my choice or hers to end the relationship.

Get away from her as completely as you can.
Don't remarry for at least 18 months, but get as involved with other people as you can.

If you are lost without her, you are dependent on her, which is not a good thing.

It's not healthy to share time with an ex partner if you're both splitting but one party is still in love with the other. This is masochistic.

You need severance, to be alone and away from this person so that you can heal and find yourself again and perhaps find the person you were before you met her.

The only way through this is to split and to grieve. If your ex partner knows you're still in love with her but she continues to maintain a relationship with you - she's selfish.

I hope you have some good friends. It is wise to cultivate and nurture your interests, passions and hobbies.

You are about to bea single guy in an age group with not very many good men in it. Fasten your seatbelt, sweetie, a year from now you will be Happy, I promise! Just do yourself a favor & watch some Judge Judy to learn the pitfalls, like golddiggers & needy users.
You are now a prime commodity, act like it & be picky!

My heart knows what you are feeling. The number of similar comments below speak the truth. You can cherish the past and you can come to cherish the future. Wish you the best.

Well as A man who has been there, Done That, Has the hat, Tee Shirt, and all the banners. I can tell you Let her go! you can forever hold her close in your heart even if the feelings from her is not the same. I have held a deep love for someone for over fifty years. But Knowing she is happy makes loving her even better.
Remember the good, lock it away and move on with your life, You To should Be Happy!

There is lots of good advice here. Move on. Live. You can’t enjoy your present freedom if you’re stuck in a prison-like time capsule set in the past. Going over the same thoughts or emotions over and over again wasn’t sufficient to maintain your soon to be ex’s interest and will keep you from discovering all the other amazing things that are out there.

it's like you've got to elbow yourself and wake up the other part of you that slept when you fell in love with her. That guy won't be so lost. That guy will be looking forward to what's next. the pain doesn't disappear, but it does ease up....

This is a bereavement, it hurts like hell. Worse in some ways because they are still alive. My ex remarried and I was trully devastated. You simply have no choice, hold on tight it won't be fun but you can find fun in your memories and in a new single life. You will eventually come to terms with this loss and you will move on. Be super super gentle with yourself, cry when you need, stay around friends, do nice things for yourself and keep your heart open. You will get through this and you will smile again. My love goes out to you...I genuinely mean that xxx

After my first divorce I just dove back in... Found other great relationships and eventually my wife of nearly twenty years. You know what they say....

If at first you don't succeed...

You are not alone. There are many wonderful people on this site with therapeutic advice.

YouTube “your mind on breakups” it at least helps explain the “why” scientifically. Still doesn’t help heal the heart but at least the mind will understand it’s roll in all this pain.

Sucks, but you have to remove yourself from the situation. It's the only way you'll get closure.

Most states require at least one reconciliation hour as proof of divorce necessity or continued marital counseling. ...insisting upon your rights to alimony on top of reconciliation might work if you make less money than she does. ...all this presumes neither of you have children

Was married for 27 yeas, found out she was an alcoholic for about half. Instead of getting help and getting better, she got worse. I still love her, I still care, but it got to the point where I could not even trust her to drive to work without stopping for a drink. Our relationship was not good, or great, but she was my closest friend for so long. I am not hugely swayed by emotions, but I do find while out there I am enjoying things We would have enjoyed if she were not drinking. And that leaves me sad. She is the only woman I have ever anything with, so I am nervous about moving on. Faithful and Us was so much a part of my identity for so long, it’s hard to actively see the next step. But I can tell you what keeps me sane and grounded. She started smoking again after quitting for 25. We are amicable on Facebook, and can chat about anything not serious... food, games, TV, the grand kid. But she is making no effort to get help with her problemand has not worked in the last 7 months. So any signs I would care about to give me hope are not happening. I told myself I was astress eater, got too big. Separating during our divorce process cleared my head to take stock and learn about my real issue. So things are much better for me physically. Mon to a Thursday nights I am busy with martial arts and dance classes. I take the dogs for walks most days. But the weekend is still hard for me. The slow down time. At first I was driven to get a date, and I have had a few that went nowhere. Awkward sitting across the table from not her, especially the one red head I met for coffee. But after being lied to for so long... I can honestly say I am still hopeful of finding a relationship where my partner truly enjoys being with me. Because I don’t want to just go through the motions.