I think living apart together is ideal. You can spend as much time together as you want, but you have your own space, and being together is always a choice. I think one would work harder at maintaining the relationship. What do YOU think?
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Yes, that's something that could work for me.
I have some former older clients who I married about 10 years ago. They still live in separate homes, about a ten minute drive apart. They do their own thing, but get together at one of their places when they feel like it and still go on dates and vacations together. It works for them.
I used to think it would be great to have a romantic partner in a separate apartment from mine, but in the same building. I'm a night owl and enjoy sleeping in or at least waking up naturally not with an alarm. Most partners I've had are early birds, so waking up only hours after going to sleep kept me in a constant state of feeling like a zombie.
I actually offered a live together but separate style home situation to my ex-husband, instead of getting a divorce, where we each could have our own bedroom and bathroom, and then a shared living area with kitchen and laundry. That's the only way I could have stayed married, but he wasn't interested in that. I think he was more worried about "appearances" but I needed my own space, where I could think and write without hearing the TV and constant interruptions.
As it turned out, I'm way better off emotionally and physically on my own. The year he was here sharing my one bedroom apartment was a form of hell for me. I didn't have a moment to myself where I could just enjoy a breath. I couldn't eat what and when I wanted, there was the constant "what do you want for dinner" question every day. Ugh.
I love being single! I refuse to live with a man again.
Every time I lived with a man all of the cooking, house cleaning, laundry and garden work was dumped on me.
Never again.
Yeah but Abbott, ya don't like football. Someone has to tend to ESPN for the latest scores
If two people are happy to have their own houses in which they reside and spend time together, great! If there is a falling out between them then there is no need for them to be under the same roof. It can be fun to spend time together and it is also good to spend time alone.
Whenever they are together there should be a sharing of household chores. My ex-wife hated housework so we struck a deal, I did all the housework and she did the cooking, sometimes, I did the cooking.
I never watch sports. Never bought a TV.
I can't stand the sound of televised sports.
Doesn’t work for me, though I have been, and probably currently am in, the situation of living apart together, which can be even worse as far as I’m concerned.