No, I did not find you grumpy!

@Organist1 thank you! I think in general I’m a pretty happy and contented guy. I just don’t selfie well!

@Barnie2years I think most people have a hard time looking casual and not posed for selfies.

Wouldn't that be a deterrent on a dating site? It might be better to pose with a puppy.

@Organist1 No more of a deterrent than grimacing, distorted, mirror selfies. You never know, it might attract someone seeking a challenge - or a steamy affair. Whatever, it wouldn't be the boring old "same of".

@Organist1 I have had the experience of having more women hit on me while I was in a relationship. Maybe it's just some people wanting to take something, or someone away from another.

@jackjr Oh, that's sad. I've had married guys from dating sites try to hit on me, and I always say I'm not interested. Nobody wins there. Everybody gets hurt.

@Organist1 I'm married, same woman for nigh on 57 years if you count the time we were engaged. However, I promise not to hit on you.

@Petter Congratulations on your long marriage. That is truly a rarity!

@Organist1 Thank you.
How do you know that we're not simply too lazy to move on?
Actually, it's all just a matter of give and take. Whatever grief she gives me, I take.

@Petter If that's so, would congratulations still be in order for being the laziest? At least you would be consistent.

@Organist1 I suppose that actually a good reason would be having a mutual sense of humour - especially of the ridiculous.

@Petter Most important reason, as far as I can see. My ex-husband and I were married for 30 years. He had the most warped and wonderful sense of humor of anyone I've ever met. If he hadn't been gay all along, we'd probably still be married. But I never knew until close to the end, although I suspected something was wrong.

@Organist1 Sad and it has told me women are often as shallow as men. There was one woman who stated she was 5'6" but all her previous relationships were tall men. If one is shorter than 5'10" don't bother to contact them. Looking at lots of nature videos one can see it mostly seems to be the biggest most aggressive male that gets the females. Somehow, a lot of human males and females are driven by the same 'chemistry' as is the more 'primitive' animals.

@jackjr yikes! That's terrible. I like men under 5'10". I don't like the height difference.

@Organist1 I have met petite women who are only attracted to large and dumb men. They feel vulnerable and want a protector who will obey them. One such woman was a scientist who did research on toxins. I witnessed her at a Sierra Club picnic with her 'friend' while they were playing volleyball. I have heard this from other women as well. Noooo thanks.

@jackjr That wouldn't work for me. I like everything approximately in the same place, lol!

@Organist1 When youse nose to nose youse toes is in it. When youse toes to toes youse nose is in it and when youse in the right place youse got no one to talk to.

That's a great success story, but I'm so sorry to hear he's gone now. You never know who you're going to meet on a dating site. I met one of my best friends that way. He and I were never romantically involved, but we just "clicked" as people, and both have adult sons on the autism spectrum. He and I support each other in ways not many others understand. There are a lot of lonely people out there, and a good picture helps.