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I need some etiquette advice: m\My second husband's second wife just died. Should I send a condolences card? Go to the funeral? What is the correct thing to do ? My feeling is don't go to the funeral, but I also do not want to appear petty. We all live in a small rural community and no matter what I'll do, there will be blow back.

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Spinliesel 9 Apr 17
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Thank you all. I will send a card when the funeral is announced.

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send flowers.

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I would not bother the bereaved at such a time and would likely not attend services to avoid any risk of drama (folks are NOT at their best at this time). A card shows you are aware and that you are sad for the survivors in a very tasteful fashion.

Zster Level 8 Apr 17, 2023
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Send a card and move on with your life... it is time?

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Discuss it with your second husband, then accept his advice. That way, you have a perfect shield against any blow-back.

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I think you should do whatever you feel like doing. It would be completely okay (etiquette-wise) if you didn't go to the funeral if that's what you're comfortable with. But I think sending a card is a nice thing to do either way.

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send a card for sure, and if you actually knew her a Small floral tribute Or an appearance at the calling hours, if any, if you Want.
Blow-back-ers can suck it!

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Level 8

I think a card expressing your sympathy to her and her family would be appropriate. I wouldn't go the funeral either.

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Ask him, if that is too uncomfortable you probably shouldn't go. Send the card, it's never wrong to be polite.

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