Even back as a teenager dating, I never felt it was right to so much as kiss another girl if I was going steady with one already.

Two things I always said before I got married: I would never cheat and I would never get a divorce.

As with other things that I've learned through my life, you can never understand what drives someone else to do something until you are in that situation yourself. My marriage had its problems but it wasn't until I found myself seriously considering an affair that I realized just how bad things had gotten. While it's unfortunate that it ended in a divorce, I can honestly say that in the end, I never did cheat on her. I may be an atheist but I do have morals and I know that it would have been something I'd have a hard time living with.

your not a prisoner in a relationship so have the decency, to be honest, and respectful and it can't happen. why cheat as that is what adultery is when you can just communicate?

I'm loyal to a fault, but it wouldn't be a deal breaker for me if my girlfriend strayed. I think trust and truthfulness is important, but if she cheated and we discussed the problems or dissatisfaction that led her to find comfort or whatever elsewhere, I think we could work through it. I'm not opposed to an open relationship, either, and that might be a solution if it ever happened. But, I'd hope she'd discuss it with me before it ever got to the point of secretive behavior, lies, etc. I'd like to think I'm the sort of person who would take the time to understand her needs and be patient with her as she deals with something uncomfortable and confusing.

In a committed relationship, there are expectations of honesty, loyalty, fidelity, trust, communication. The promise is that the affections will be shared exclusively between the two. When infidelity occurs everyone pays a price trust is broken and the injured party feels betrayed and if there are children involved they are caught in the middle of a lot of pain they had no part in creating.

It is important both parties do everything in their power to save the relationship before considering infidelity. If there are children then plans for co-parenting should be made.

One relationship must be over before another begins. This would save much heartache.

An adultress affair may be exciting but it has none of the responsibilities of a committed relationship and when exposed may cause years of anger and stress.

I'm old school. I believe in keeping commitments unless it's in everybody best interest to break such commitment. Now fornication is something else.

Can you be more specific-trying to figure out what you're asking.? Ok I I believe in fidelity. My first marriage lasted 16 years-longer than it should have. Sometimes a partner will look for an escape by cheating. Maybe they think jumping into another relationship is the answer to their problems. Sometimes they just want out of the marriage and want the partner to let them go free. Many reasons for infidelity-we shouldn't be so judgemental.