What about your apppearance defines you?
I like to say that I should have been a spy, i'm so plain looking that no one remembers me the first ten times they see me.
I workout and men stare at me too much. I wore short shorts (Under Armour brand) and a workout polyester Under Armour shirt to Wal-Mart and men gawked. It's embarrassing in the summer. It's supposed to be 80°F all week.
Well, what's too much. Why feel uncomfortable?
@Gert Every guy that I end up walking in front of. I used to be bullied for being ugly and fat. Now every guy that seems interested to talk, or sees my body, hits on me. I'm so confused? I want to be healthy, but I want to be fat/ugly again. Men never stared then. I was ignored. I want to be ignored again.
Well @Sarahroo29, I can understand that well. Being anonymous gives a feeling of self. Depending on no one. On the other hand I suppose it's not all negative and you get positive results of your being healthy and good looking. Besides that, I guess you realize that you live in a world where looking good creates chances. But looking good comes with a price. Maybe you should look for someone that can help you to learn how to manage that. In this group might be someone that could support you.
@Gert What group?
@Sarahroo29 Hey, I'm from the Netherlands, I don't know. Group of friends? Good looking girls tend to stick together (when I should believe the movies). No, I don't know where you live, but I'm just 9 years in the US, so I don't know. I know there are groups. Maybe one of the Meetup groups of meetup.com?
@Gert Groups for what?
@Sarahroo29 someone or a group that you can relate to and that can help you to feel comfortable. Other people can manage on their own. I'm not a psychiatrist.
@Gert I don't have a group of friends.
@Sarahroo29 I understood that already. Still you could try to find an try existing groups. That's how I landed in a non-religious group by Meetup.com. It's not everything, but it's an option.
@Gert I don't want more friends. Sorry.
@Sarahroo29 Than, if you have no existing friends that support you sufficiently, you have no alternative than dealing with it your way.
@Gert Support for what?
@Sarahroo29 I will not go around and repeat things. I actually I don't care that you think that you are to beautiful to feel comfortable. If you want to be fat and ugly again, eat measureless, if you want to stay healthy don't. Some people have to live the life they choose.
Gert just got blocked!
I think my tattoos and my very long, mostly grey hair. That is all I can think of. Of course I'm also fat, which may also define me, but I am not massive, so, I don't know. Maybe not. "Shrug".