Read it with gf about 20 years ago. Was great fun discussing. Today remember little.

This book contains too many generalizations about men and women. I stopped reading it.

I don't like it when people stereotype others, for example, "Mexicans are lazy" or "women are emotional."

If I remember correctly, there's a chapter about "how to avoid arguments." I thought it was wrong information to put out for the most part. Here's my take on arguments. They are GOOD! Any relationship that lasts will have MANY arguments...so I don't agree that they should be "avoided". There is a right way and a right way to DO it, but airing your thoughts to your partner, even if it's arguing and gets loud, is healthy. Where you cross the line of course, is if you begin throwing out verbal abusive slants toward the other person, or becoming physical.

My wife and I regularly argue and I'm not ashamed to admit it. It's what I feel has kept us strong for going on 20 years. Afterward, we always "kiss and make up" and we tend to speak TO each other eventually about the topic instead of AT each other, which does happen frequently when each person is upset or feels they really need to get their point across to the other person.

Arguments are healthy, as long as boundaries are respected.

Read it, and have discussed its concepts many times. I found it interesting, and fundamentally, theoretically sound. Men and women do have different ways of looking and responding to their world; but there are also many similarities and commonalities. Like any self-help book, I saw this one as being an opportunity for some people to become more mindful and emotionally competent. No one size fits all and i know many who found it useful. Did you?

It's a long winded way of saying men's minds and womens minds work differently. at the time it was written it might have been relevant but society as a whole has moved on now there is no longer that much of a split between the sexes some men act really effeminate if I asked my dad what moisturiser he used he'd look at me like I'm taking the piss but I regularly hear guys in their 20 discussing what products they use while at work and I have met a lot of women who act extremely masculine compared to gender stereotypes from the 80/90s. Honestly no book can tell you how a mans mind works I'm one and I don't even know how mine works. We do dumb shit for no reason at all and it doesn't matter how smart the man.

I get the feeling I should. I'm off work for summer break and maybe the library has it??

I did read it and I felt like it fed right into a lot of the stereotypes people believe about each of the sexes...I didn't take anything from it that helped my relationship at all, but it was a decent read.

I really can't wait to start reading it. It sounds like it should be good.