How off putting is it to learn someone has kids?
I've never liked the term "baggage". We are mostly talking about amazing little human beings here. You would be lucky to meet them! Or someone's history in general that still has consequences for them. And the older you get, the harder it will be to find someone without any "baggage". Unless they haven't lived! I would be more concerned about that than about someone with a complicated background. Thoughts?
Poll: Would you date someone with kids?
I'm not the guy most want helping raise their kids.
My thinking seldom fits most familial expectations.
So, there'd be some big questions about having a full on relationship with someone with kids who aren't grown that would hinder any such relationship.
Sum up - probably not.
"Unless you haven't lived."
That sounds a little condescending.
I haved dated partners with kids. I noticed the more kids women have the less emotionally available they become. One or two alright to well behaved children are manageable. More than that I couldn't do unless I really, really liked the person.
Yes, I have kids from my first marriage and dated a woman with two children, I remarried to a woman with no children and no desire to have them. It depends upon the situation but I don't see why kids would be a deal breaker although they definitely complicate matters.
Wjen you get to tnis age range most peoples kids are getting close to leaving the nest.....atleast they can wipe their own butts so thats a plus lol.
This has to be an "it depends" kind of situation. I don't have kids, and have never wanted them. At the point in life where I am, I'd hope that anyone I was involved with would have grown children.
Baggage is a mean term. However, as a single guy and I'm not opposed to it, entering into a commitment with someone with kids, their kids come first and you a distant second. Plus you have to adopt their lifestyle for the sake of the kids. Though their kids are probably great, its a lot to ask of someone.
I was a kid, I procreated 3 now adults, how do I judge? Now I believe kids are the greatest of responsibilities a human could ever experience. Just like not everyone is fit to be a parent not everyone is fit to be a step-parent.
I grew up religious and thought that flirtation of any kind was a sin until I got to college and became an atheist, so my social skills and whatnot are severley stunted and I’m not even sure how ready I am to date effectively let alone navigate a relationship where I have to think about someones children too.
I kind of like the idea of dating someone with kids, but it isn't a preference. It's just a very interesting bit of insight into their personality when you see the relationship with their kids.
I would definitely try to avoid someone with younger kids. It sucks of theyre a really awesome person but ultimately, it's generally pretty difficult in my experience, especially earlier on. I was in a long-term relationship with someone who had a teenaged child which wasn't so bad because they were always out hanging with their friends and whatnot. The younger ones just require so much time and effort.
My ex has kids, so I already have. I'm 39, so anyone I date will most likely already have kids. I think once you get past 30, it should be expected. I haven't had kids yet because I haven't been in the right situation with the right woman. I had the chance to have kids with 3 different women. It's not something I take lightly. It's like kind of serious mannnnnn! affected voice
I would not date anyone with kids that were not grown. Personal reasons.