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Merely reading a profile...
I don't like admitting this, it seems to be an emotional response....
I recently read a profile that pushed Soooo many wrong buttons for me that I wanted to block this person without ever having interacted with them.
I really disliked my first response, am not sure how to deal.
Any thoughts or advice?
UPDATE
This is to offer some thoughts on the dialogue so far, and enlightenments achieved.
Synopsis:
As you saw, I had a very negative response to , and only to, a profile.
I was unprepared for the venomous emotions I felt, so I had an immediate desire to block this person, tho I did not do so.
Shortly after, I posted this, (and as I now see) sought to understand the experience.
I truly appreciate all the thoughts, and gained insight thru most of them.
One poster, in particular, turned on that light bulb, when she suggested the words of the bio reminded me of someone else.
I saw at once that she was correct, that the bio reminded me of a horrid past relationship.
And tho I'm in almost complete disagreement with everything in that bio, I'm happy I didn't block that person for no reason other than my dislike, cause this discussion helped me wake up to that particular reactive part of me, and defuse it!

njoy_life_2 7 May 19
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I can understand this, and the good bit is that you never have to interact with them and you never have to feel bad about it . I would trust my visceral responses .

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People tend to either lie blatantly about who they are or not give a fuck and so are completely open and honest online both come from the same place but different directions. Never going to meet any of you in real life so what does it matter. The fact that what was writen caused a negative emotional response that means theres enough there to think this person could be either a troll or legitimate weirdo then again I've yet to meet a person whos not weird so if their views or behavior are not abhorrent live and let live

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As we live our daily lives, how often do we listen to or watch people who trigger us in any emotional way just by their presence? It happens doesn't it? Sometimes we're right, sometimes we're not since memories of people who look or sound like those who affect us will affect us again. Our amygdala never forget. So like others, on this thread have said, I trust, but verify, ultimately going with what my intuition says to me, at least until i can prove that a threat exists or not. There are emotional vampires out there so people who have intuitive protectors which have worked before would do well to listen. I have and do.

Well said Jose, ty valuable insights
(PS, I see now, your name is Joseph, sorry...)

@njoy_life_2 Thanks, Bev.

@njoy_life_2 "A rose by any other name....." hahaha No apology necessary, but thanks again. Have a great day.

@josephr
And a nice rose you are, Joseph!

@njoy_life_2 You can't see it, but i'm blushing. I do that easily though. LOL Thanks Bev, so are you. Cheers.

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Look at the bright, positive side, you won't have to worry about them ever commenting in your post or you commenting on theirs. Go for it. It is as if they no longer living in your realm. Exercise your privilege and right to Block.

Lol, "disappearing" unpleasant people, would we could in r/l, huh?

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I suggest you disable all your buttons.

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I would say don't overthink it. If you don't like oatmeal cookies you don't buy them, not want to ban them. Profiles are good to identify if the person is a good fit, initially. Who knows later if other things he/she posts won't be so offsetting.

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Just block them if you don't like the sound of them. Do you really have time to waste on worrying if people will be offended?

When I stopped and considered, it wasn't the other person that bothered me, nearly as much as it was myself, my own gut-twisting reaction. Thankfully, I figured some things out, with help and thoughts from everyone, especially one particular person.

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I really want to say you should go with your feelings on this one, but then I remember the current state of America. We got to this point partly because we can no longer have a civil discourse. We separated ourselves into two camps and refuse to interact with our opposites. We need to get back to a point where we can all have different opinions and still interact civilly.

d_day Level 7 May 19, 2018

Yes, this is a huge part of why I try not to allow unthinking emotion to rule my actions

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